please help me?

Question

i'm with someone who i don't love but we have a child together.i have found someone i love and they love me.please what do i do?i'm so unhappy where i am.

Answer 1

I would say you owe yourself the privilege of being loved, and loving back the person who loves you. Try your best to keep a healthy relationship with the father/mother, but it's not fair to anyone to live a lie, and even less so to let someone believe something like that. You owe yourself the peace of mind, and your partner the truth, so they can go on and begin the healing process so THEY can in turn find someone to love.

Answer 2

Before taking a final decision, think about this;

1) Did you love your current partner before your decided to live with him? You may ask "how does that matter?". Often times relationships look very attractive when you see someone few hours a day. But the same relationship degrades terribly when you see that person day-in-day-out.

2) If the answer to above is "Yes", then you need to ask yourself, if history is likely to repeat itself in your newfound relationship. Will this relationship also go the same way, when you start living with this person? Most often, people close their mind to undesirable thoughts, but you wouldn't want to end up in a similar situation 3 years later, would you?

3) I agree it is not easy to conclude you don't love someone. But, if there was love at one point in this relationship, then the core problem is not going to be solved by changing partner.

4) Plenty of things change in people's lives once you have a child. The child brings in added stress to both the parents. That coupled with other 'external' pressures (such as work, finance, etc) could easily depress a man. HAVE YOU CONSIDERED SUCH FACTORS? Perhaps you can do something to get him around such hurdles and make the relation work?

5) And finally, do keep the child's interest into perspective too. In all likelyhood, he'll be happy where you are also happy. But give it due weightage before taking a final decision.

Give yourself some space and time and think carefully before taking such a major decision. It is important you identify the factors that make you love someone and ensure that this new person will continue to have them all, few years down the line.

Good luck

Answer 3

Sound like you should get a divorce if you are married. It is a tough thing to do but being unhappy will hurt your relationship with everyone around. You should try to stay friends with your mate if you split so your child doesn't feel confused about the split.

Answer 4

Sarah, this sounds wierd but my sister in law has this same problem. What makes this weird is her name is Sarah also.
I can t really answer your question but I need assurance. you have just recently placed your status with us here at answers, and I to know , YOu dont live in Lawrence County missouri, do you and have a son named Logan? Do what your heart tells you with the relationship. If you are anything like my SNL then I think you will manage just fine. If you are who i think you are then give your sis a call

Answer 5

Follow your heart. I know its hard leaving the father of your child. Why dont you talk to the father of your child? He might feel the same way. Try to weight the pros and cons...Good Luck

Answer 6

wellll... a child doesn't means you have to be together with him forever... whend the love is over... the best thing to do is ... move out... the child will be your forever... so think about your happynes...

Answer 7

Go where your heart is.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

just try talking to me please

i hope i was suposed to find out