I love a guy already but I would like some guys as plutonic friends but I find that it is hard why?
2006-11-16 22:35:27 · 14 answers · asked by drop_it_likeithot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not you, it's them.
I have recently been friend-dumped by a lot of guy friends as soon as they find out I am seeing someone. There are a rare few men who are looking for platonic friendship with a girl, but generally that is because: 1.) they are dating one of your friends 2.) they want to date one of your friends 3.) they want to date you and are casually trying to work their way into your affections
Men just don't seem to do platonic very well. Look up Ladder Theory-I swear, it's the truth!
http://www.laddertheory.com/
2006-11-16 22:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by kiddo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are missing guy friends in your life because whenever you get the chance to meet a friend you easily fall for him and you take the opportunity to go out with him. There's nothing wrong with that, it shows that you're a human being.
But the thing is that if you keep doing this everytime you meet a guy, you won't have any guy friends...or else you'll have guy friends who'll keep their friendship with you just for the wrong reasons. You don't want to get hurt, do you? So next time you meet someone, block those feelings and spend your time chatting, laughing and everything else friends do...You don't need to transform all of these guys into boyfriends.
Even friends can admire and protect you.
2006-11-17 06:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Riana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy with ....... well lets say some yrs of experince i can tell you that other than co -worker status most guys think all the time with theri other head from puberty on up first and the ones that dont seem to just do a better job of covering it and havin gsiad that i have friendhsips with many wondrful laies but can make my wife jealous so it has to be discreet or she is always worried that they will jump my bones although that wouldnt happpen since i cant even read the gals signals anyways even if tehy were itnerested but thats off teh topic ..so yeah i dotn know your age but hope that helps some and if not you will understand soon enough
2006-11-17 06:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bud 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can have male friends... I think you're scared of having male friends incase your partner gets jealous of the male attention..... but if he's a normal guy (I use this phrase loosely)... then he'll expect you to have male friends! It may even make him feel better when you're hanging out with your friends cuz he'll have another guy to talk to instead of a gaggle of girls!
Getting a male friend is the same as getting a female one.... strike up a conversation... and away you go!!!
Good Luck!
2006-11-17 06:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by greenbloomers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so... but there will always be a wierd vibe between te two, even if you don't like eachother!! GOOD LUCK
2006-11-17 06:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by vetsmom_rgv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the relationships Christ focused?
Without Christ being the focus of this type of relationship, it will be very rare to not have lust infiltrate the relationship. The devil seeks out to destroy relationships.
2006-11-17 06:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by jonathan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are 2 plauzible answers when who to balme.
either it's you or them.
it's very simple. let's take adjectives.
beauty - if you are beautiful it's you. if you are ugly it's them.
kind - if you are kind it's them (they can't understand why, if no reason). if you are mean it's you (you drive them away)
sexy - if you are sexy it's you (you also like other men to appreciate that). if you are unattractive it's them (they always want only what they can't have)
and so on...
2006-11-17 06:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can, but it won't be easy.
ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS: setting a boundary is damn important. eg: no excessive body contact, do not flirt, or let him think tt you want anything more than a friendship.
2006-11-17 06:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by kaaydenn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who said you cannot get friends, say one you will get hundered.
2006-11-17 06:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is it hard for you or them? if its hard for you, you are probably seeking some deeper connection with them, if its hard for them, then you must be smoking hot.
2006-11-17 06:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋