Well I have been best friends with my best friend for Over 4 years we get on really well and speak a on the phone a few times a day.
Anyway she was there in the delivery room when I have my second son along side my husband, she know my deepest secerts and all that.
Anyway today i told her that i was thinking about having another baby as my youngest starts school soon and always said i would have another when he went to school.
Anyway this morning i told her i was going to try to get pregnant this month and that i was really excited, and she told me not to complain to her when i fell like Crap cause she couldnt deal with listening to me winge again.
I than in turn said well your my friend and should be happy for me and if i winge you should be there to listen casue if you cant winge at your friends who can you winge at??Anyway i told her she was being rude and hung up on her.I now feel bad about hanging up on her but was so upset i need to end the call.
Advice would be good???
2006-11-16 22:33:38 · 29 answers · asked by La diva R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call her back. She may have been having a bad day and need someone to whinge to aswell. She obviously cares about you to have been through so much with you and sometimes people say things without thinking it through.
2006-11-16 22:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Princesspoison 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You had your feelings hurt and you reacted. It's OK because were all human. You don't know what's going on with her. She might have had a bad day or maybe she wasn't feeling it, and the list can go on. You should call her back if you two are best friends. She probably doesn't come out with every little thing that's bothering her so you might want to ask her what's wrong so that you two can get to the bottom of this together. It seems that she's a bit jealous in my opinion of you trying to get pregnant and have another baby. I could be very wrong, but that's just my opinion. Just talk to her and you two try and have a deep talk so that you can find out what's really bothering her inside because there's something else there.
2006-11-16 23:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur not over reacting at all i would of done the same thing maby , when some one speaks to u rudely its hard to come up with a come back and especially if Ur not prepared so don't worry bout it she shouldn't have spoken to u like that any way , ok well maby she has been wanting to tell u to stop winging coz it been bothering her for a while so i recon just apologise to her for hanging up on her and then try to tone down the winging coz if she winged to u all the time u would probably get sick of it wouldn't u ? and what i like to do it write stuff down u no to get it offa my chest coz even tho i whinge allot i no that it can be annoying so i try to hold back a little and restrain my self from going a bit to over board ,
2006-11-16 22:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what is winge?? Anyway I think you went a little over the top by hanging up on her. I mean she could have been a little nicer yes but hanging up in someones ear is just plain rude. Call her back and apologize for hanging up but also let her know that you didn't appreciate her comments either. I hope this helps and if you could please tell me exactly what winge is I would be very grateful.
2006-11-17 00:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by mamabag06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any friendship there will be a strain at times. But at teh end of the day communication is whatcounts. Speak to her again....and acknowledge that maybe you did winge....if you did.....and ask her to tell you if you do it again so you can try notto. Or something like that....don't go all upity on her after all sounds like she was just telling it as she felt it and is no less of a friend for that surely.
2006-11-17 01:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she is your friend. Call and apologize. Maybe she's tired of carrying your burden for 9 months at a time. What have you done for her lately? You girls need to take some time and go to lunch and enjoy a massage together, do some bonding. YOU, my dear, should stop expecting your friend to put up with crap that no one else would. Have some respect for her; perhaps she's not sharing her heart to you because you suck her dry emotionally. That's what it sounds like to me. Give a little for a change. Godloveya.
2006-11-17 01:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes friends are there to listen to our problems, but do you listen to hers. Maybe she was just having a bad / off day and you caught her at a bad time. I think that you ought to ring her and apologise and arrange to meet up over coffee or lunch and say okay. Tell me what is going on in your life, what is going on with you. As the two of you are best friends this is something that will blow over, but maybe she is having a few problems and hopefully by you two meeting up you can resolve this disagreement.
Sometimes when we tell our friends our problems and they give us advice we sometimes overlook the fact that they also have problems and things that are worrying them also.
2006-11-16 23:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't she mention this to you at the time instead of waiting until now. If she was a good friend she would be there for you through good times and bad. You need to speak to her and explain why you were so upset and to see if you can patch things up. If not find yourself a true friend
2006-11-16 22:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying for a baby without success and she needs the friend to comfort her ring her back and get talking friends fall out all the time it just takes 1 to say sorry then all is forgiven .
2006-11-16 22:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were absolutley right to hang up on her! Friends are there for each other through good and bad times. Put it this way, would you tell her the same? Probably not.
You deserve an apology from her.
2006-11-16 22:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Leacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋