how can i loosen up, im too self conscious, i want to go to bars and clubs an stuff, but i always chicken out, i dont know if its cos im self conscious or im jus nervous as i dont do it regularly and im not much of a dancer.
2006-11-16 21:40:41 · 16 answers · asked by chembeh 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
just go...go with some friends have a good time, don't drink too much and relax
more than half the people in clubs can't dance anyway
2006-11-16 21:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll be taking yourself out of your comfort zone at first, so it's natural to feel uncomfortable. That's okay. You can't let discomfort keep you from doing things you want to do.
Don't worry about loosening up--you don't have to feel confident or relaxed to start going out. Most other people are self-conscious also, especially if they're in a new place. You'll gradually feel more comfortable the more you go out.
Before you go out though, it helps to find something to wear that looks at least as cool as what most other people are wearing.
Once you're out, be sure to hold your head up high, even if you feel you look a little arrogant. The more nervous you feel, the more you should be sure to keep your head up. Having something physical to do keeps you from feeling as nervous. That's why so many people smoke.
To dance, simply pick someone to imitate who is not right next to you. Works wonders. You can get away with something minimal, like standing there and bouncing your knees a bit while bobbing your head.
2006-11-16 23:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me.
There is no easy way to build up to this at all, the buildup causes the same nervous reaction. You just have to do it. Take a book if you feel the need to 'hide' while you are there, but just go into the place and do it. As for the dancing, I can't bring myself to even try so I have no clue on that one.
Another thing that helps is if you go during off hours for a bit first and get comfortable there.
Good luck! I'm the same way so I know what you are going through. I hope this helps.
2006-11-16 21:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worri coz every1 gets nervous but the longer u put it off then the harder it will be to do it when youu reali wan to. So wear somethin ur comfy in, and go to a local club with some close friends. u dont hav to dance, you can just sit and have a drink. you may meet new people, and remember- most of the human population cant dance, but copying what others are doing can help you learn some moves!
2006-11-16 21:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Eden B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not take it slowly. Just because you go there doesn't mean that you have to dance and honsesly, there are a lot of people in the same position. It's hard to advise someone to loosen up, but once you're there you will see that there's nothing to worry about.
2006-11-16 21:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Princesspoison 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Not every1 can dance!!! As long as you can loosen up and bob your head to the beat- it's beginning. Go out with people you're comfortable with and won't pressure you to do anything you don't want to. If that isn't enough, have a drink before you go. It will loosen you up a bit.
2006-11-16 21:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you join a social group such as a sport or a drama group. You will find loads of people on their own and if you get shy you can just concentrate on ding the activity. Eventually you may find people to go to pubs with if that is what you want. Good luck.
2006-11-18 21:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you tried going with a friend? Try a quiet pub where you can actually talk to people. You may feel a bit more comfortable there. You are not required to dance and you can talk and be able to listen to people as well. It is very difficult to hear people in a nightclub.
2006-11-16 21:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of people get nervous about trying new things and going new places. you should say yes next time ur friends ask you to go out and make your self go. Then next time you go out it will be easier as you will have been before and it will give you more confidence. have fun x
2006-11-16 21:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by hazy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop putting yourself down you need to build up your confidance and self esteem, remember others are not perfect. if some people sense your lack of confidance they may pick on you. Buy Joyce meyers book the confidant woman, www.joycemeyer.org you can order it online. and overcoming low self esteem melanie fennell
readers@robinsonbooks.com they are great book everyday write down positive things about yourself and read it out 3 times a day, concentrate on your good points not negative.
2006-11-16 23:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋