I'm suffering from very low self-esteem when it comes to finding a date. I am 24, male. based in Argentina and good in everything else I am doing financially well and am loving, caring and nice and not possessive at all. but I am round, stocky and unattractive with glasses as result I don't get good picture of me how much ever I tried. I registered myself in several dating forums and paid money also, but still the women that I feel attracted to, don't hold interest in me. I just want to know psychology in females, do they give so much imprortance to good looks that they ignore the person inside them. Isn't it very unfair nowadays.
2006-11-16 21:36:26 · 15 answers · asked by miguel_xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The key to what you want is in your own mind. If you have "low self-esteem" you will only get attention from women who are the same. It sounds like you are attracted to something else in a woman.
It's the same for them, especially if they are attractive and have MANY men to choose from. You must find the real YOU that is a cool person with a lot to offer a woman.
This is the best place I've found to change your thinking and not spend a lot. Give it a look.
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/
2006-11-16 21:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have your facts straight about this. Women have always been more comfortable than men being physically close in the sense of hugging and touching each other. But I doubt that there is any more real sexuality in it now than there ever was, except that the taboos against acting out have been removed for most modern women. Someone once said that 10% of people are naturally gay. It may be an order of magnitude guess, but let's use it. In 1950, possibly as many as 10% of those (i.e., 1% of all women) actually found a way past the taboos to have an actual lesbian experience. The rest just found themselves less interested in men than other women, and no big deal. Perhaps a bit of self-questioning as teenagers, but nothing very well understood, because it was taboo even to talk about it. Today, the proportion of those who find their way to "the gay community" and meet someone else who is similarly inclined is much greater. But also, many women just go a little too far being close to a friend at some point (perhaps when drunk), get uncomfortable with it, and go back to being huggy, touchy type people who don't interpret that as sexual. Others find they are less comfortable with hugging and touching after that. I had to re-learn how to give a friend a hug without thinking it is "unnatural" after I got a little too close. Perhaps that's why there is also a category "bisexual."
2016-03-28 23:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason a guy passes on a female. Think about a girl that has everything going for her, but she is not that attractive to most people, not even you. You will not be attracted to her inner beauty, because you most likely don't want to give it a chance. Most people look at the outside and base a connection on looks. It is the way humans work.
There isn't much you can do about this problem other than just try to look your best at all times. Keep being loving, caring, and nice and you'll find someone who gets to know the inner you. Those dating sites are a crock of $hiiit. Don't use them!!!!! You'll be out money!!!!!!!! Go out and talk to people in real life and show them your inner self!
2006-11-16 21:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but yeah that is how the dating world is. On the good side of things there is a girl out their feeling the same way. She is probably over weight, glasses, braces and short. But she probably like you is very sweet on the inside. Keep looking she is out there somewhere.
2006-11-16 21:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, firstly you are only as unattractive as you feel, if you think your unattractive that is what girls will pick up off you, secondly stop trying so hard, just try to talking to girls as friends and see if anything develops, there is someone out there for everyone and i'm sure you'll meet the right person for you someday, good luck
2006-11-16 21:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by angiebluebird2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go look in a mirror wha t do you see ,, dating services only take your money .. go some where where there are single woman .. not the net and not dating services or night clubs maybe loos e some weight you said it youre fat this is unattractive
2006-11-16 21:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are stuck trying to find their prince charming.I like differnt shaped men.I look on the inside and not the outside.I like big men because they have big wonderful hearts.you are still young,there is someone out here for you,you just need to be patient.
2006-11-16 21:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for American women.
It is said,
"why aren't Americans very attractive?" Someone replied, "because the attractive women marry for wealth, not looks."
G'luck!
2006-11-16 21:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, looks re important whatever anybody will tell u. so why don't u try to improve your looks? if u re fat - go to gym and lose weight. if u re ok financially as soon as u improve your appearance they will clinge to u. good luck
2006-11-16 22:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should change first your look. I mean you should always look presentable. you must learn to be confident. be proud of yourself! if they don't like you, the problem is with them!
no matter how bad or ugly are you, if she loves you, she would accept you for who you are. that's all
hope i helped
2006-11-16 23:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by rockbluestar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋