My boyfriend dumped me a few weeks ago and I realized too late that I loved him and regret not telling him so. I have now but he doesn't want me back and I don't blame him, I wasn't the best to him. I'm ready to change for him but I know it's too late. I tried numerous times to talk to him but he won't budge and I have poured my heart out as well.
I've never been so depressed.
What should I do?
It's unbearable to picture my life without him.
Please someone give me advice
PLEASE!
2006-11-16 21:27:47 · 25 answers · asked by snowbunny83090 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your really depressed seek professional help but truely the best solution is time. i know its not the ansewer you want but its the only true answer i have found
2006-11-16 21:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about this situation. But don't worry, no one dies from a broken heart.
I don't know how you loved him and were not the best for him, if you love some you will be the best for them by nature, no need to discover anything.
It seems you did not love him then, you just got used to him and there is a big difference, so that when he left, you did not feel love, you just missed him being around. Besides, it seems he does not really love.
In conclusion , it seems that love was not there in the first place, it was a relation and did not survive the challenge of time, it is perfectly normal.
I know there is a always a tendency to dramatize these things, but try not to, this thing happens to over 50 million women & men every day all over the world
2006-11-16 21:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by mjallad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy but you will have to get over it. I've been there. No doctor, fairy Godmother or ANYBODY can take away the pain. You have to take it one day at a time. The longer you sit around and feel sorry for yourself, the longer it will take. Keep yourself busy and be productive. Start a new hobby or get more involved with an old one. Find a good book to help and be determined to regain control of your mind. When thoughts of him creep in, stop immediately and divert your attention to something more pleasant and satisfying. He is getting on with his life...you must do the same.
It won't be easy but you must be persistent. Do not go and get involved with someone else right away. It would not be fair to him and you will again be doing the same thing that got you in this predicament in the first place. Use this time to search yourself and identify who you are, what you want and how best to get there.
Use this painful episode in your life to to help develop your character. There is room in all of us to make ourselves a better person.
2006-11-16 21:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens always in Love.
Now you have learnt the lesson never fall in love in again. The best thing I can suggest you to come out of the depression is start reading some suspence novels and keep your self busy with other works. Imagine that your are an actor and keep acting that you are happy.. After some time you will get used to it. Try to spend time with friends, craking Jokes, watching Commedy Shows on.. Do anything that can bring smile on your face..
Things mentioned above are comming out of great experience.
2006-11-16 21:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by Suhaeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realise that you are heartbroken and we never know what we have until we no longer have it. Right now both of you are in a lot of pain. But what you must stop doing is trying to talk to him because this is just making it worse.
You need to face the fact that he doesn't want to be with you, although this is hard, you need to be strong and get over him. Go out with your friends cry, watch sad films, and listen to love songs, eat cookies and ice cream. But whatever you do, don't contact him.
This is going to be hard for you and I dare say that when he starts going out with someone else it is going to be even worse, but you need to be strong, because you will get over him, and the next time you get a boyfriend just learn from this experience and be nice to him.
2006-11-16 21:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna take time but you have to show him that you've changed. Words come cheap. I threw my husband out once and didn't want to ever see him again. But he was patient. He gave me space then called and over time I saw that he really had changed for me. We've been happily married 10 years. People can change and I hope he gives you a chance. Don't give up, but give him space and time to see the change in you.
2006-11-16 21:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very painful situation.... i would say that you have to give it time. I know that it sounds corny but its true. nothing anyone says is going to take the pain away. you need to try and be strong. he is probably not going to want to be around you for awhile if things ended badly. if you really want to win him back you are going to have to start from the very bottom and it will take tons of work. make sure its worth the effort before you jump into it... if you have loved once then you can love again.
2006-11-16 21:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by lacefranks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you. It sucks having a broken heart. Personally I think time is the best healer but in the mean time try keeping yourself busy with friends, fun projects, maybe even traveling if you can. Do anything positive to distract you and maybe talk to someone like a therapist (just to vent your feelings) Feel better :)
2006-11-16 21:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
damaged hearts are problematic to fix, although the way i dealt with that's to vent with ur friends. have self assurance me, they'll make u experience so much better, and attempt chatting with ur mom 2. also what helped me replaced into to take heed to upbeat music..... yea, i understand it sounds stupid even though it honestly works. quickly u gained't even imagine about whoever broke ur coronary heart, have self assurance me. As for making the tears stop, enable all of your crying out. U experience so much better after letting ur emotions out! remember: u are literally not on my own in having a damaged coronary heart, and u get better each and each and every time. wish i helped u, and u'll be ok =)
2016-11-25 00:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by whitmire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Do somethign to keep yourself busy and do not think of him at all.
18 months after me and my BF broke up ( i was crushed and didnt want to live) I met my Husband of 9 years now. We have two wonderful children and I thank GOD that we didn;t stay together. He is NOT what I wanted afterall....It gets easier. Wait till it turns to hate, then you are almost better.
2006-11-16 21:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋