I recently ended a friendship with someone who was very draining to me...he constantly needed my assurance, and I spent money on him that i didn't have trying to help him...but he refused to listen and blamed me for his end results, which were just was I told him would happen....so, my question is,...did you ever have a friend like that, and was I wrong to tell him off and end my friendship? It was so onesided, and he was very difficult and whined and complained all the time and did nothing to really change things..except demand more. I swear if I had money to send, also, he would have taken it and in fact, made me feel like I owed him..Anyone there have a so called friend like that and how did you deal with them?
2006-11-16 21:17:21 · 8 answers · asked by MotherKittyKat 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
wow all these answers have been so good! IT is going to be really hard to pick a winner!
2006-11-17 00:43:03 · update #1
I had an ex girlfriend like this... I eventually told her to "have a nice life".... I would have taken her back in a heartbeat if she showed the slightest accountability for her behavior, but of course according to her it's the rest of the world that is the problem. She was bitter and angry and said years later that I abandoned her. The fact that dumping her wasn't even a wake up call for her was total assurance that I did the right thing. I'm so glad now that she's out of my life and I'm spending my time with people who care about me and give something back. Good luck.
2006-11-16 21:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Zloar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good you tried to help, but he took advantage of you and the sounds of it, never took responsiblity for his own actions.
I can only be walked on for so long and I would have ended the friendship also.
You tried and your friend just kept his hand opened and when things didn't go the way he wanted he blamed you. We don't need friends like that.
I think you did good
2006-11-17 07:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving advise to someone who doesn't listen to you is like taking your money and throwing it in a fire. You can never change anyone. You can only listen, try to set a good example for them, and get out of the way when they are trying to pull you off the cliff with them.
2006-11-17 05:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Gildward Rutherford 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they refuse to take your advice they will learn from their mistakes
No, i dont believe you were wrong to end the friendship, you cant save everyone in life.
Move on with your life and make new friends.
2006-11-17 05:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Star Luvy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some friends like that who are stubborn you just cannot help. When dealing with people like that, it's best to do what you feel is best for yourself and your own sense of sanity and wish him the best of luck in whatever he decides.
2006-11-17 05:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I help someone who refuses to take my help by taking someones help whom he likes very much, If i am willing to some one i will help him in any other way which he deserves it Like the above one is an example........ OK babe bye.
2006-11-17 05:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by pavan k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh god one of my best friends was like obsessed with this guy and he was bad news and EVERYONE was trying to give her advice cuz he just kept hurting her and hurting her. we eventually gave up cuz she keep putting us off and she ended up so screwed. i think you just need to drop it and try to move on
2006-11-17 05:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by BLEHH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. Sorry to say it, but I had to write those people off.
2006-11-17 05:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by kitty fresh & hissin' crew 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋