I thought me and my boyfriend loved each other, first he wanted me to move in but now he is saying he doesnt want commitment but loves being with me? Im confused what is going on in his head?
2006-11-16 20:54:40 · 24 answers · asked by squizz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a guy, I know that the thought of doing something groundbreaking is exciting first, but then once it hits, we all get nervous and back out. He might not just be mature enough to settle down. Moving in with your significant other is a step towards a life together and that thought can be very scary. So, sit with him and talk honestly. Ask him where he wants to go with this relationship, what his fears are, etc.
I hope that the best comes out of this.
2006-11-16 21:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have just come out of a 4 year relationship because my ex couldn't commit. Then he wanted me back and I started falling for it, now he can't commit again! My advice is back off and start doing things that make you happy - remember if it is meant to be, it will happen, but put yourself first and be true to yourself.
2006-11-16 21:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, he is as confused as you are. Maybe even more confused. Anyway, he just got to figure it out. If he's can't commit, then what's the use of being with you? Am I making sense?
2006-11-16 21:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep... wake up and smell the roses..... move on... dont waste your time. I might seem like im being hard on you and will get loads of thumbs down from all the kiss ars*s on here but thats life.... find someone who does want you.
2006-11-16 20:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what that usually means is that he wants the milk for free without buying the cow. He will appreciate your cooking,cleaning,sex-etc. but he wont marry you. I tried this myself 4 times and none of the men wanted to commit because in their minds--they had already *won*, so why bother getting married.
my advice to you is to stay in your own place and date him.If he wants a chef and a maid, let him hire one
2006-11-16 21:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Duckie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you have been together. Perhaps he was in a bit of a rush, but just needs a little more time! Give it more time, and see how things go, and just enjoy being together, with your own space.
2006-11-16 21:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd want to find out what he means by commitment. what exactly doesn't he want? and - most importantly - what exactly does he want from this relationship? it's often difficult for women and men to understand each other since we tend to express ourselves differently, so don't try to interpret the few things he's said so far but find out what he means by them. then you can decide if you can live with what he wants to offer you.
2006-11-16 21:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by new-in-town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a BIG difference in spending time with someone and living with that person. He probably does love spending time with you, but is not in an emotional space where he is ready to share his living space. Probably has much more to do with him and his own issues than you.
2006-11-16 21:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by retorik75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITs PLAIN and SIMPLE darlin, HE IS A what you would call a
W A S T E M A N !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Leave him and move on, he is playing with your emotions, you deserve better. Dont fall for this guy. Where is your self-respect.
Goodluck ! ps. i know its easier said than done, but serious tings, he takin the pis*outta you. move on. quick.
2006-11-16 20:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by london lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His afraid. Afraid of responsibility and afraid of having his privacy or free time taken away. If you move in, he might have to make changes for you--changes he doesn't want to make.
2006-11-16 21:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by jay_p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋