I'm 19 and have never been kissed or had a boyfriend. I always try to be friendly, I love sports, like to make people laugh, help people with their problems, and have no problem talking with guys. They just all don't seem interested in 'that' way. What's wrong??
2006-11-16 20:36:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 5'5, about 130lbs, black, i just cut my hair so its just below my ears, i dress however i want to so my style varies but nothing over the top, and i dont wear makeup unless im practically forced to cuz i think it looks fake and it comes off everywhere.
2006-11-16 20:59:59 · update #1
ok - honesty check time, and i don't say this to be rude, so follow me here. are you grossly unattractive (really fat, disfigured, etc.?)? men are physical, and they will pass you by if you arent making a good first impression. but, if thats not you, next up we have - are you just putting off the wrong vibe? ask your friends, the ones you trust..are you coming off gay or mean? it can happen by accident. next, and this ones harder, are you approachable. by this i mean the opposite of the first thing..if you're attractive, a lot of guys might assume your taken or not interested. you might simply seem unresponsive to flirting or seem uninterested in them. it happens.
finally, you may just have had bad luck. it does happen. in which case you need to broaden your social circle up a lot, meet lots of new people and make sure you are projecting that you're single and looking - flirt a lot and mention that you're single, or take the first step and get a number.
if its the first thing, and you're really over weight or some such (which if you play a lot of sports i cant see, but it could happen) then DO something about it. be honest with yourself and patient, and fix the problem, whatever it is.
a lot of people here could be more help with some more details...give us a bit more to work with. please feel free to email me if youd like more help, ive helped a few people out and am happy to do some more. otherwise, good luck!
2006-11-16 20:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by savgbst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are intimidated. Most guys are with girls who are confident. No offense guys. I just want to make sure that there is nothing wrong with you. You just haven't met the right guy. Would you rather date someone who's a total tool just because he's interested in you? No, you wouldn't. You would rather wait for the right guy, right? So don't worry... you're only 19. Have fun with your friends and meet new ones.
2006-11-16 20:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong, people react differently to others, and you seem to be a lovely person whom many people see as their friend. maybe they don't want to ruin that great friendship by dating you.
so, why don't you ask one person out on a 'real' date and let them know you're keen to take your relationship to a deeper level (assuming that's what you do want of course).
the funny thing is once you get one partner, all those others who've been your friends will wonder why they missed their chance. but don't worry, coz you're young enough to enjoy dating a few people before settling down on just one person.
all the best, and have fun ;-]
2006-11-16 20:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flirtatious but funny at the same time.
Don't try to be a slut tho.
Just give him some funny comments on whatever things he does or wears. Do it in a playful way.
Now if you still don't know how to do this, I think you should email me, I'll teach you.
2006-11-16 20:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. I actually admire people who haven't "gone all out" before they are eighteen. If you really want to be involved in a relationship, try going to dances, try out clubs at school, -basically meet different people besides the same old. Most of all be yourself, and most certainly a guy will find you most attractive and certainly ask you out. If all else fails, check out some dating online sites.
2006-11-16 20:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bounty Hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about this guy but most guys don't like to talk on the phone alot and with you 4 hours away that is about only way to talk and if you talk all time he probably getting tired of being on the phone when you go there your will probably find out everything is good between you two
2016-03-19 09:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't sweat it! I am sure there is a special guy out there. Just think would you rather have 10 failed relationship and ending up hurt than 1 fantastic relationship that lasts forever!! Keep looking, have faith, he is out there and he is just for you and no one else!!! Good Luck :-) Jesse
2006-11-16 20:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting yourself out there as the friend and advice giver and not as available. Change your way of acting to a little more flirting and see how that helps outl.
2006-11-16 20:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because maybe they have a perception of you that isnt true
like you are maybe stuck up (im not saying you are im just trying to give you ideas what they may think)
or if your like my last gf you maybe are very moral and wont sleep with just anyone who takes your fancy (personally its hard but I commend you for that)
couple of thoughts hope it gets you thinking
2006-11-16 20:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think some time we are going on the wrong way things are near to us but we cant look at them look around you some one is there who are waiting for your love but didnt give her a look
2006-11-16 20:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by heartattack262000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋