Hii the guy am in love with came to see me last night and he told me he came from seeing his girlfriend and wat i dont understand is why he came to see me it was late and when i asked him he said he wanted to spend some time with and we made love but i was scared so i told him to go and he refused but after some time he left. i couldnt tell him my feelings though i wanted to. What i dont understand is why is he coming to see me when he already has a girlfriend. he can see me for other things cause we are friends but coming late at night want to spend some time with me i dont know what it is.Can i tell him my feelings now or maybe i can waitcause this is the third time he has come and spend time with me just the two of us. And one fun thing is he doesnt say wat he wants from me only actions can tell. What can i do now cause i asked him wat was the meaning of all he didnt say anything he was kind of shy i dont know. what can i do?
2006-11-16 20:34:26 · 22 answers · asked by caroline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ah come on lady,he's using you to cheat on his women,you must know that? Either put up with it or finish it before you get hurt
2006-11-16 20:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by dope 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, i agree with the others. Because you are in love with him, you are seeing him through rose tinted glasses. Chances are he already knows how you feel and is using your feelings to get in your pants. I know it is hard when you have such strong feelings, but you have to stay strong and don't give in to him ever again!
Guys like him will say and do anything to get to you. Whats all that crap about him coming form his girlfriends to spend time with you?! Chances are his girlfriend wouldn't give him what he wanted so he decided to find it elsewhere. If he was seriously interested in you he would not be messing around with other girls.
I really feel bad writing this, coz you are obviously hung up on this guy. He is using you, then acting all shy giving you the impression that he is too embarassed to say, when really its coz it doesn't mean anything to him. Guys like that are a waste of oxygen. Luckily though I believe in Karma, chances are when he falls head over heels in love, the girl of his dreams will walk into his life, walk all over him and walk back out again, leaving him heart broken and alone. Only then will he understand how he has made others feel by his actions.
Hope you can get over him soon!
2006-11-16 20:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u r concerned with him coming over and he has a gf. now u want to know if it is the rt time to tell him how u feel.
u must be kidding
why would u sleep with him when he has a gf?
he is kind of shy, wow this is unreal
he not shy he just wanted a piece of a** and he got it. plus he got it with u knowing he is in a relationship. he has no reason to tell u he feels the same, u already gave it up.
even if u got him he would never be faithful to u, he belives now he can do anything and u will allow it. after all u r allowing him to take his cake and eat it too.
what can u do?
DON'T SLEEP WITH SOMEONE THAT IS NOT COMMITED TO U FIRST.
2006-11-16 22:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you are being used. He's only sleeping with you because he can. It's very easy to confuse great sex with great love, and this is what you are doing ... he is benefitting from your confusion, which shows not only a lack of consideration for your feelings on his part, but an incredible lack of respect for you.
Think carefully before you speak to him again, and don't let him into your house until you have ascertained where you stand with him. No, I don't mean he tells you he loves you and says he'll end it with the other one, I mean he shows you by actually putting you first, making you number one. Right now you seem to be 'a bit on the side' for him.
If he can't respect you, that's his problem. You have to respect yourself.
2006-11-16 20:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this man can have his cake & eat it 2.
I think your hoping his falling for you lets just hope not because you also might end up like his girlfriend think about it what man sleeps around well lucky 1 i quess whom can get away with it till his caught :) enjoy while you can have fun while it last as were all here just this 1 time but remember what goes around comes around so think would you like to be his girlfriend right now?. because you might if your not carefull.
2006-11-16 21:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by aussi3kar3n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BOOTY CALL!!!!!!!!!!! if he is cheating on his girl what makes u think he isn't going to do that to u??????? face it he's a player. don't let him fool u into thinking u are so special that he had to cheat on his girlfriend, thats just his game to get in your pants. if u go out with him he will do the same to u when he sees another girl he wants to f u c k. thats why he comes only at nite. and he's not shy about his feelings he prolly just has nothing to say. guys are straightforward, they aren't like us women. don't be so naive and leave him he is just using u. and c'mon it was the third time he has seen u???? u shouldn't let him in so quickly!
2006-11-16 20:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by chica™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People here have already given great answers. I'm in a similar situation and it's hard but believe me, we're better off out of it. I know I can do better. So does he, which is why he's begging for me to come back.
2006-11-16 22:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Little One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very obvious that he wants to take advantage of you. He knows that you like him thats why he wants to get in your pants..It would be better if you could talk about it with him and ask him whats the real score,,he has a girlfriend,so its not right for him to come to you late at night...Unless he wants to make love to you...keep your pants on...
2006-11-16 20:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Diet 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has the best of two worlds. Has a girlfriend and a **** on the side. Get your head out of your (a)ss and see that he is using you. Grow up
2006-11-16 20:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You slept with him and he has a girlfriend? That's bad form. Put yourself in the girlfriend situation, I'm sure you wouldn't like it if your boyfriend went off sleeping with his "friend". He's only using you for sex, can't you see that
2006-11-16 20:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Soph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How naive are you?!! He is using you for extra nooky - nothing else. Would you like your fella to cheat on you with someone else? Then don't do it to his girlfriend. He is a cheating, lying jerk - ditch him and find someone who will commit to you, not use you for sex, as that is all it is and it will never be anything more. He will cheat on you. Where is your self respect and conscience?
2006-11-16 20:47:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋