theres this girl im in love with. she always flirts with me. shes always kissing me and telling me that she loves me. i had a girl friend at the time so i didnt try anything with her. i recently broke up with my girlfriend and i want to go out with her but theres a problem i have. she is only 13 and i am 24. i dont think about her sexually or anything like that. i would be perfectly fine not having any kind of sexual relations with this girl.im not a perv but i really like her personality and she always listens to what i have to say, not like my ex. my ex never listened to anything i told her, which is one of the reasons why i broke up with her. but i dont know what to do about my situation. should i ask her to go out with me or should i just forget about it?
2006-11-16 20:05:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No don't go out with her keep it as a friendship thing, don't kiss her don't encourage her or anything like that. Fine if you want to be friends but until she is 17 you should do anything because you could get in trouble. I understand that you like her and that she listens and even though nothing will happen between the two of you. If something were to you could get into trouble and you wouldn't want that to happen.
Just keep this thing on a friendship level and then once she reaches the age of 17/18 and you still have the same feelings about her then ask her out, but not before
2006-11-16 20:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEt me be frank with you bud. If you continue to let this girl kiss you, no matter what you THINK, you WILL be at the right moment when your judgement laspes. You will be hard and that one kiss will have your hardon take over and if you dont believe me, wait until you find the level of stress and fear you will feel when you find after youve "gotten off" that youre thinking "WHAT THE HELL DID I JUST DO?!?!?!?!" You cannot permit a CHILD to kiss you, youre a grown man who will find out too soon how your penis will take over no matter WHAT your head is telling you. Its what the penis does. DOnt place yourself in that situation. She listens to you because she is attracted to you, and its wrong. She doesnt have life experience to KNOW any better- YOU DO.
YOUve just admitted that you love a child and yet claim to not be a perv. My friend this is text book denial. You wanna stay out of jail and not be raped by men with aids? Keep yourself away from this girl because Im telling you as a 33 year old, your penis will cause something to happen and it WILL be YOUR fault for allowing it. You should have never let her kiss you without telling her that its not appropriate. FIND AN EXCUSE To keep away from her, no matter how sad she may seem due to it- if you enjoy freedom and if you think she WONT end up telling one of her best friends, or diaries or online journals that she is kissing you, and more, then youre a fool. I promise you, someone will find out- thats whay immaturity does, 13 year olds enjoy telling secrets, not keeping them.
youre not using your head and when youre in prison, she wont even remember you. But Runny Juan, Tony the Rock, Johnny Six Gun Mahone, Black Master Johnston and the other *** masters in prison will remember you, daily.
think thats a joke? She wont even remember you bud. And they'll use this online forum as evidence against you, its called an admission of guilt.
2006-11-17 04:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by . S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you'd feel special to have someone look at you like that. she listens/hangs to your every word cuz she's a child that looks up to you. You know that in the long run it'd hurt both of you tremedously.You need to not listen to the thoughts of liking her.I am 24 and I know a bunch of 16-18 year olds that I work with and even though we get along well and I care 4 them and some I am attracted to I ignore it cuz it's hurtful for everyone and if you truely care for someone you put them first and in a big way you're putting both of you first cuz you don't want anyone to get hurt.
believe me there are plenty of 24 year old women out there that will listen to you. they might not have the puppy dog eyes that looks so adoringly on you as she does but she's really a child.I hope you take what I say seriously and get in touch with your deep feelings and realize you care enough for her not to hurt yourself. I am not even mentioning sex I am just talking about emotions.
ALSO you JUST broke up with your g/f.I don't know how long you've been broken up but you should wait at least a couple of months before you persue anything with anyone for that matter so they're not the rebound girl;so that you know you actually want to be with them rather than have them as a distraction and possibly using them,even if you don't realize it at the time.
Please read my last few questions and answer them if you have any ideas on them. they're about this shy guy I used 2 go out with.
thanks
Tricia
2006-11-17 04:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by dabluschmosprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just can't figure out what in the world a 24 year-old can tell to a 13 year-old that she would be listening with understanding.
Kissing a 13 year-old is a child molestation. Sooner or later, you will go to prison, where the inmates will beat the crap out of you on the everyday basis. If you will make it to your release, you will live as a registered sex offender for the rest of your life.
2006-11-17 04:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget all about her. She is just a little girl and doesn't know what love is. She has a crush on you (and nothing more) that will eventually pass when the next good looking guy passes her way and gives her a little attention. But if you don't back off now, you can land yourself in jail or end up with other serious problems with the law.
2006-11-17 04:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is definately *really* young and that is a big age gap. kids can be the best listeners. i dont think you should ask her out cuz its against the law. wait til she's 18 and if you have the same feelings then sure, but now would just start problems that arent fair to either of you. stay friends though
2006-11-17 04:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by KitKat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. Shes too much younger than you. Wait ten years, and see how it is then, when you won't be considered a paedofile. Anything you do with her may be reported to the authorites, and if you have sex with her, it will be rape. I'm sure theres a perfect girl out there for you, that is closer to your age. Goodluck!
2006-11-17 04:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Steph :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm as a woman i would advise u to just be friend, things could be messy and she could, blame u for everything and end up hating u. She is still very young and probably she didnt even get her period yets... well i know that love is very hard to control but the something you need to hold ur willy... thats all i can say..
2006-11-17 04:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude,your 24 yrs old,get a grip on yourself.i m not telling you to stop liking her but just give her sometime for her brains to develop becoz she s only 13 maybe when she grows older she might want a guy with different interests. my friend liked a guy who was 13 yrs older to her,and she even went to the extent of loosing her virginity with him and later after she found out that he was cheating on her she yelled at him and she cried for about an hour and then forgot all about it. now i m not saying that your gonna cheat on her but she s prone to forget all your feelings and the guy who liked my friend dumped his fiance for her but its a really long story and in the end its my friend to blame for everything.so think this one over before you take a wrong step.
2006-11-17 04:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by rayray.jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a friend ..........not a girlfriend. She doesn't love you, she is too young to know what love is.You cannot keep a relationship without having sexual relations.You should forget about her but call her 10 years after!!
2006-11-17 04:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by stam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋