okay so there is this guy who i have been dating for over 2 months now. he lives in California and i live in Canada. He is a yr old than me and i love him a lot. Me and him made plans to meet eahother and things changed so we were going to meet up next year, he is 14 im 13. Lately... well.. yesterday i met a guy named Jordan and he isnt as far as Jamie. Jordan is 15. He told me he loved me and wants to share his life with me. Jamie has said things like this but lately Jamie seems side tracked. im REALLY starting to fall head over heals for Jordan. but i have Jamie. IM NOT A CHEATER. ..What should i do? Dump him? and if we did break up how do i get him to dump me instaed of me dumping him. i feel to bad to dump him because he loves me a lot but i thinkk we are drifting. (U)
2006-11-16 19:49:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive asked him whats been on his mind and he always says "nothing" jamie isnt talking to me about things.. everything has changed since we started going out. and i dont rele like it bc ... now he is so comfortable and he doesnt care about hwat he says to me like he used to. i know its stupid and im just a 13 yr old who dont know n e thing about love but.. this was love at first. i am just so lost. im pretty much growing up on my own right now anyways because im never with my dad, he works 24/7 and i dont live with my mom because i wanted to get to know my dad... THIS IS SO HARD.. lol.. life is starting to tick me off lmao.
2006-11-16 20:08:05 · update #1
Oh, grow up. These are obviously guys you met online. Put down the twinky and get out in your own town and meet someone local.
BTW, you are too young to be hooking up with a guy, especialy from another country.
2006-11-16 19:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by boredperv 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already have the answer...you and Jamie are drifting...keep drifting, it will fall apart. You can tell him the long distance relationship isn't working when things take a big pause. Also, do you know why he seems so side-tracked. Is it his studies or is he in a playing team or what is it? Did you ask? The more you wait, the more hurt he will be. Ask him, talk to him about it gently, tell him you will understand no matter what. See what he says. He might be finding this relationship hard to work on and might just tell you. Don't play him along. If you are going to be with Jordan, leave Jamie so he can move on faster. Besides, be friends with people first before you decide on lifetime matters. It makes the bonding stronger and you will know each other better. You are so young, wait a while. I'm certain this is falling on deaf ears. No child listens to this advice and wants to grow up faster. And when you are older, you will want these years again. Slow down! You are only 13!
2006-11-16 20:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you don't want to cheat, that a good thing.
But you are so young(I know you don't want to hear that)and to tie yourself to one boy who is across the country is silly, I'm sure that he is seeing other girls. You should spend time dating a lot of people to decide which one is really the one you will be happy with to share your life with. You will be surprised what you learn about each other the more time you spend together. My mother used to say: There is plenty of fish in the sea & you never no someone untill you live with them. You don't have to break up with Jamie you don't have an engagement ring on,(and don't even think about that at your age) Males will say they love you to get kisses, touchy, and sexually physical, Any honest man will agree
with this (HORMONES are crazy at your age) relax be honest Be good but have fun
Trust me been there done it Slow down and enjoy your days life goes by fast.consentrate on doing good in school and taking care of you Don't have sex it makes things worse at your age it gets you no where with anybody.
2006-11-16 20:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey mizz
I personally think that your the one whose triping off the wrong edge becoz your only 13.maybe you should just take it slow and not get yourself too involved with this jordan guy. and if you feel like jamie s drifting away from you then maybe you should give him a call or write him a letter sayin that your feeling like your loosing him.and please dont get intimate with any guy becoz your way too young for commitments.so enjoy your life while you can.sure you can have a boy friend now but don go too serious becoz it may lead you into pits which you would nt want to be stuck in. i m only sayin this out of concern becoz the same thing happened to my sis and i know how miserable your feeling now.but one more thing,if your still confused after readin this then there s only one thing to say,"FOLLOW YOUR HEART".
2006-11-16 20:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by rayray.jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at your age you need to be meeting people face to face,,you need to learn how to interact with others,especially boys and you cant do this by phone/im/text and webcam,,people need people and to 'commit' yourself to someone you are not even able to reach out and touch wont do your confidence with real people any good,,end the distance relationship and go outside,,look around,,there is your life passing you by,,you are young and need to live,,this distance relationship cannot even take you out for a burger,,real people can.you need to be able to go out,,sit across from someone,,feel nervous because he has looked at you for a split second too long,,wonder if he will brush against you because he likes you or because it was an accident,,argue nicely over who is going to pay,,,silly things that we all take for granted but wouldnt want to be without,,dont cut yourself off from the chance of dating nearer home,,the experience is something you wont get back and as you get older,,yeah,yeah,,i know,,blah,blah,,,but it is true,,you will regret not doing these things,,they are not always there.
2006-11-16 20:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start cracking the books. You, little schoolgirl, could probably use a little bit more study time.
You are too young for this "drama". There'll be enough of that later on.
2006-11-16 20:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Foolhardysage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie! dont try to growup so fast! enjoy your time as a little girl, you will only be it once!
i think you are too young to be looking for love!
why? cause if you are looking for love
you are willing to kiss
kissing leads to other things
other things lead to
babies, getting dumped, gossip, the guy's will think you are a whore!
you will feel shame!
you will feel rejected!
hurt, violated, broken trust.
yeah WELCOME TO REALITY!
2006-11-16 20:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r too young to decide who you want to spend your life with...but not to young to fall in love...listen to your heart closely and pick the one that makes you happy....but dont have sex with any of them just an advice..if you want the relatinship to work
2006-11-16 19:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by LaDy in Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe a guy that says "I love you". Actions speak louder than words, it's easy to say those three words but a lot harder to roove it.
2006-11-16 20:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Internet addict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was reading right up to where you said you were 13!!!!!!!!!!! your a kid your not head over heels in love tell the cali guy your seeing someone else because he's closer he should be cool with it
2006-11-16 19:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋