Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend recently over a few silly things that could have been fixed, I have told him im really sorry and i was stupid, also that i love him and miss him more than anything, its not working - he just says 'you wanted this break you got it' but its really the last thing in the world i wanted. I need to find a way of getting him back - i'm willing to do anything. thats how much i love him. I can't hate myself anymore than i have through breaking it off. i'm hurting and all i want is to see his face again. Is there anything i can do?
2006-11-16 19:45:51 · 28 answers · asked by bonjovi1987rocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you love somebody set them free
2006-11-16 19:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that if he wanted you he wouldn't be back in your arms forgiving you? The more you beg the more he will pull away. Keep some dignity girl. How do I know this...been through it!!! In the end if they did come back they left again. Truth and Reality suck, there is a man out there who truly is the one you want and need. I read two books in the last month..."He's just not that into you" and "they call it breakup because it's broken" both by Greg Behrendt. We need to accept ...those two truths so we can get on and find the real man.
2006-11-16 19:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hes quite hurt by what you did with his snibby comments about you wanted it so you got it - maybe it would be better if you wrote all this down in a letter and popped it through his letter box as he'll get to read what you still feel without having an opportunity to get snibby with you.
Also words are often absorbed that bit better when they come off a page opposed to being spoken.
He can read and reread your letter and hopefully he'll realise that you made a mistake and give you another chance.
good luck! xx
2006-11-16 20:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he's probably just angry. Give it some time. If he doesnt budge, either he doesnt want you back or you have to pretend you dont want him back. One or the other usually works... sounds like you tried talking to him, so a game is the only thing I can think of. People want what they can't have. If worse comes to worse, move on. If you don't get back together, maybe you werent meant to be. Good luck with your decision.
2006-11-16 19:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by .:miss:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your boyfriend needed this break more than he says you did, and that's why he's not coming back to you.
Don't cry over spilt milk sweetie, I'm sure you're not worth of a relationship that ends over a few silly things, and it's never ones fault.
Even if you persuade him to come back, it's never gonna be the same, because he won't be with you 100% with his free will.
Find someone else.
2006-11-16 19:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Vette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop chasing him. You made a mistake and he may be making you "pay" for it. Be mature enough to accept his response even if it isn't what you wanted. "I'm willing to do anything..." and "I can't hate myself anymore than I have..." shows that you do not value yourself enough.
Maintain silence for a week or so and see how he reacts. Then you will know if he is serious or just calling your bluff. Begging and groveling probably won't "win him back" for you, but it will definitely cause you to lose a good deal of respect in his eyes.
2006-11-16 19:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Foolhardysage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's really angry at you. The best thing to do is cool it for a while, just get on with work or whatever and try and get your mind off it. Things will be clearer for both of you in a couple of weeks - and if you really think it's worth it, you will find the patience in yourself.
2006-11-16 20:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is to give him space......the more pressure you apply, the more serious the wound becomes. A few days is enough and then invite him to meet you somewhere where you and him can talk alone. Remember also that yous should not crawl to get him back as that is what he wants.
If he is mature enough, he will forgive you and focus on things that matters, which is you.
2006-11-16 19:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by spookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might take time. If you're serious about this then you've got to behave with dignity. Give him the space he needs and don't be too much of a doormat. Respect is important - you've got to be worthy of love.
It's a waiting game. He might be tired too, of the fighting. You've done what you could - told him you care. That's it. Now the hardest thing is to wait. And of course, that is no guarantee either.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 19:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make urself available to him. Make him think u can live without him. GET HIM JEALOUS. IT'S THE WAY TO GET HIM BACK. . He'll go crazy for u. Dress to impress , Men will love it and ur ex will love it even more.And when he feels he wants u back , play hard to get .You'll have him where u want him. He'll have a taste of his own medicine and he'll know what it's like to want something really bad.
2006-11-16 19:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Doll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly things = compromise points. One should not have to compromise in a relationship. You did the right thing without knowing about it. Move on.
On another note.....leave the situation alone. If in fact you acted rashly, only time, not actions nor words, will solve this for you.
2006-11-16 19:52:51 · answer #11 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋