Hey,
I'm hanging out with my dancepartner a lot lately.
We go out and have something to eat together all the time.
Every time I offered to pay but she rejects. Yea, i know if a girl let a guy pay, it means something.
However, everytime after she rejects she offers to pay for me.
Being a guy, I feel uneasy letting a girl pay for me, so we end up paying separately.
Why is she rejecting my offer to pay yet offer to pay for our meals?
2006-11-16 19:18:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I often feel its unfair to the male populous for us to hold onto the old way of a man ALWAYS paying for a meal. She may feel the same.
Its not about what she should do, but what is fair. True equality means being treated equal, so you two pay seperatly. You offer which is nice and she offers too, but in the end I think you are on the right track. She may be a raging feminist and this is one of the ways she shows off her independence as a woman.
Bottom line. You aren't a couple so don't sweat the fact that she's paying her way. Enjoy that she isn't using you for your money, and that she actually enjoys your company.
2006-11-16 19:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol. I do that a lot!! I think its b/c I dont want to seem like a gold digger or feel like I owe someone something. It could be many reasons. Perhaps she is one of women's rights activists? Maybe she feels it's polite? Just see what happens, maybe she'll let you pay soon. If not, tell her how you feel about the situation.
2006-11-16 19:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by .:miss:. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for the same reason you rejected her money -- it feels weird. Whenever a guy offers to pay for me it feels a little ackward. I don't refuse, but it is a little disconcerting. Or maybe she's flaming feminist, who knows.
2006-11-16 19:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah My boyfriend and that i frequently pay up like, i pay for the movie, he pays at cafe day and it is like balanced, no EGO popping there and yeah not that really has to continually shell out!!! So enable her pay up for the movie, you may get some drink or dinner after that.
2016-11-25 00:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to know for sure is to ask her. maybe she feels uncomfortable with it same as you. i go out with friends and we usually either split the bill or sometimes i pay and other times he/she pays.
2006-11-16 19:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you are offering her this meal and the next meal she will pay for it, then you will had a first starts.
2006-11-16 19:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by lee r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have yet to see the conundrum. Let her.
2006-11-16 19:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most probably she doesn't want to feel inferior.
2006-11-16 19:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY BUT SHE JUST CONSIDERS U A FRIEND AND SHE DOESN'T WANT TO "OWE" YOU ANYTHING LATER ON.
2006-11-16 19:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good
2006-11-16 19:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by mrgrumps01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋