Willyou help me to guide a life perfectly?

Question

My friend is not good at studies and he had started smoking andsome drug kind of things.His mother died a year back and his father gives no attention. Igive him support all the time.But i live far from his place

Answer 1

i think we r sailing in the same boat though my friend's mother is not dead she almost wishes so.
-tell him to focus on his studies 'coz he shall hav to take care of himself when he grows up.
-let him cry(that helps a lot)
-get him involved in activities like sports or art so that he is distracted from his troubles
-ask him to keep a diary or to write letters addressed 2 u and exchange them with u whenever u 2 meet
-ask him to stop smoking and doing drugs 'coz that way he's harming himself and that his mother may not hav wished to see him like that
-if it's too serious go to a therapist

P.S. i'm not answering this for a best ans. but 'coz i know what u r going through

all the best

Answer 2

It's not in any way your responsibility. You should worry about yourself and not about other people, in so far as you're not harming anyone. You don't owe this person anything just because you're successful and he isn't. Everyone has problems and everyone has to fix those problems for themselves. If he's depressed, smoking and doing drugs, it's going to take more than your fine example, good advice and undying love for him to face himself, mourn his losses, figure out his hurt, and forgive himself. He has to do the work himself, and most people don't want to be bothered, and spend their entire lives trying to escape their own truth. So don't get dragged down with him. Worry about fixing yourself. Such as the obvious: Why do you feel the need to fix others?

Answer 3

Life is a tough uphill road. That is if you are only trying to carry yourself up the hill.

Sounds to me like you have your own struggles. You live far away from your friend and you are concerned.

I like Yahoo answers, but we are not saving lives here. If you are a friend, and you are not helping. Why should we? All of us have our own problems. (me more than most)

Take decisive action to help or stand back and watch. Do not post a question here and somehow feel better for the effort.

Answer 4

many kids go through phases of all kinds of self destructive behavior. the best you can do is let him know that you are a friend and willing to do whatever you can when he is ready to go on with his life. sometimes people need breaks from life though. don't be too hard on him because he wants to not focus for a while. it is his choice to make and while you might make a different choice for yourself you can't make his choices for him.

Answer 5

ya but promise to obey first, u will run on a right path

Answer 6

no i wont