My little girl is about to be born in the next month, I was wondering if any of you great and beautiful moms out there could offer any advice on caring for new daughter, and helping my beautiful wife to make things easier on her and make her feel good. Any advice would be appreciated.
2006-11-16 18:38:14 · 15 answers · asked by pharmacytech44 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Listen. understand. love blindly. hold on tight and never let go. You are going to be her first love. Love her with all that you have. Be strict but kind. Don't scare off all her boyfriends just most of them. Hold her hand as long as she will let you. As for your wife tell her she is beautiful. She is going to say things she does not mean when the baby is coming ignore them and smile. Don't tickle her feet and don't tell her you know how she feels. Help with the middle of the night feedings. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-17 00:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a first time Dad . It is great and your life will never be the same take over house duties cooking,cleaning , washing cloths and all that.. Be supportive in all that your wife does tell her how much you love her and appreciate having Baby.. Prepare bottles change a pamper once in a while and so on.. as Baby grows it will get easier and yes buy some good head phones .. But still be there for your wife and Baby.. Then start going to a movie and dinner with your wife.. that will help her and you allot .. and so much more to add but you will be o.k they are a blessing they really are.. Baby B is 10 months young know and I could not imagine life with out her .. Congratulations and God Bless you and your family..
2006-11-17 03:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first bit of advice would be to buy your wife something special to give to her in the hospital after she has the baby. Everyone dotes on the baby and the mom kind of gets overlooked. Give her something that lets her know that she is beautiful and that you love her. As for caring for your daughter, don't be afraid of her. She won't break. Night time diaper changes or just bringing the baby to your wife for nighttime breast feeding is a huge help. And tell your wife that it's okay for her to nap when the baby naps, because she may feel guilty, but believe me she's going to need all the rest she can get. It's obvious that you will do all the right things and you'll be a great dad because you cared enough to ask the questions. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 02:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first 3 months are exhausting. Your baby will not be concerned with day and night... Sleep when the baby sleeps!
Do lots of cooking now and fill your freezer with meals that can be warmed later.
If your wife is breastfeeding, sit with her and/or talk with her while she is nursing the baby. It's important to be supportive to nursing moms. Bring her a glass of water.
Change the baby's diaper without being asked.
Many Dads want to take part but feel like they're a babysitter or helper rather than a parent. That's why it's important for the Dad to have a task of his own. Many Dads will choose bath time. Your wife will probably be the primary caregiver, but if you take on the responsibility of giving your baby a bath in the evenings, this will help you and your baby bond, while giving your wife a moment of respite.
Helping with the increased laundry is always nice :o)
Take the baby for a walk in the stroller so your wife can have a bath or get a haircut.
Once the two of you are acquainted with your new daughter, arrange for a sitter so the two of you can get reacquainted as a couple... it's easy to get lost in the roles of Mom and Dad.
Congratulations! You are blessed :o)
... and my gosh! Don't listen to "Fizzle"s answer. Ignoring a crying baby is like waiting for your car battery to die when the alarm is going off. Your baby may exhaust itself and stop crying when ignored, but your baby's needs will not have been met. How cruel.
2006-11-17 03:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Thank* your wife regularly for this beautiful gift you are about to receive. Tell her you love her twice as often. For some new mom's....it can be an adjustment to 'share' their husband w/ a new love...she'll need your reminder more than ever. Always remember the little things count....answer (or unplug) the phone; glasses of water as she feeds (esp if she's breastfeeding); participate in new baby duties as you can (diapers, bathing, laundrey, etc)., arrange for an in-home massage when you think your wife is ready (take the baby for a walk so s/he's not a distraction). If anyone asks if there's anything they can do to help....take them up on their offer...ask them to consider dropping off a casserole or something for dinner. It will be challening (impossible?) for your wife to cook meals regularly those first months. Meals in the freezer are a tremendous comfort and help. When the baby wakes in the evening..perhaps you can take the diaper changes while your wife takes the feedings?
All this said....ASK your wife regularly how you can help and what she needs. ASK her how SHE's doing (after having had major physical and emotional adjustments). ASKING will go a L O N G way.
Sorry for rambling...this is all top-of-mind...it wasn't that long ago for us ;)
Congratulations on your new someone to love!
2006-11-17 03:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by l2brennan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all you have to do is be yourself, man. But if you want to do something more? Housework. She'll be physically drained for awhile and house cleaning can be so overwhelming and take so much attention away from your baby and so to see it done will make her SO happy. Also, maybe write a little letter to your daughter about how much you love her and put it in her baby book, that will mean the world to both of them.
But really, sounds like you're doing tons just by being yourself, which is so much more than a lot of people have these days. Congratulations to you and your family!
2006-11-17 03:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great dad to ask that.
Remember that babies do not manipulate anyone. If they cry it is to get their needs met. Babies have needs not only to be fed, dry, and warm, but also for lots and lots of cuddles and hugs whenever they ask for it, day or night. Do that and you will have a happy baby and a happy toddler.
Do whatever you can to make sure your wife is successful with breastfeeding. When she sits down to nurse bring her a glass of water (or whatever she likes to drink). Really encourage her and if she has problems get her the help she needs- it's so much better to breastfeed and worth whatever work it takes.
2006-11-17 10:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very luck pair of ladies there. Relax it will come naturally. Share everything with your wife, I mean the feedings, the wake up, and the diaper changing.It will be smooth sailing from there.
2006-11-17 02:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by lilyvix2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mum but a dad.
There's not a lot you can do as a father when the child is newborn as the child really needs its mum for bonding and survival. You could however, focus on house duties.
2006-11-17 02:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get up with the baby some, change diapers and hire a babysitter once a month so you and your wife can go on a date together... congrats and good luck!!
2006-11-17 02:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋