my dad died yesterday and i havent cried like for more then about a min thats not normal is it?

Question

him and i were really close do you think im just supressing my emotions too much? should i just let it out?

Answer 1

he's dead. your mind is blocking it out. i could not imagine how it would feel if you realy let yourself feel the pain. let it out, people go insane when they hold something that large inside. he's gone, and you have to realize he is never gunna come back. after the pain, comes the healing, remember your heavenly father in this dark hour you are about to go through, and, never, let go of those who love you. but, you have to let all your pain out.

Answer 2

I am sorry for your loss.
We see on TV and all around us that the so called normal thing to do is cry, some people don't. some times because it has not registered in our heads ( this can be a protective instinct) or shock. Grief is like a finger print everyone's is different. What we do know about it is that you may experience a lot of different emotions-we tend to go through cycles, sorrow, fear, anger loneliness.......these can start that day, a week from now or a year from now - or not at all. there is no "wrong or right " way to deal with death. Your body will guide you, If you feel you are headed into an area that you can not handle then ask your mom or teacher /counselor for help - ask for grief counseling.The only unhealthy way to deal with death in my eyes is when it hurts you or your loved ones that are still here...I have lost all my family except my son over the years, and I can tell you from my experience that as long as you talk about them and don't try to stop loving them "because they are gone " it will help in the long run. So no, you are not abnormal you are OK. Do what you feel you should and love the ones around you....Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope what I have said has put your mind at rest. take care.

Answer 3

You will hun when the time is right, it will just hit you when you least expect it, my sister died 7 years ago at the age of 38, and although I cried, I cried a lot, I felt I hadn't cried enough, but I got on with my normal life, as best I could, then out of the blue, I heard the song I chose to be played at her Funeral on the Radio, and that was it, I cried and cried and cried, I was uncontrollable, but I knew it was what I needed, I didn't try to stop my self either, I let it all out, and I felt so much better after it, I still miss her dearly today as if it was only yesterday she died, but I am very lucky and I realize how lucky I am, as I have many fond memories of her and of us all growing up as kids, and when i miss her and want to be around her, I just dig into my memories and I am with her again, that is something that cannot be taken away from us, our memories of our loved ones, my heart felt condolences go out to you, you will cry soon, and when you do you will feel much better, I promise.

Answer 4

I'm so so sorry to hear about your Dad, my sympathy to you. I lost my Dad 9 years ago. Still cry, still miss him, I'm always quoting what he used to say FUNNY STUPID STUFF that always put I smile on any ones face. It is OK that you haven't cried, Who's to say whats normal. Every body grieves differently. If you are suppressing it that's fine, There will come a time I'm sure if you are a crier like me that it will just hit you, and you let it all out. Don't feel bad that you aren't showing that type of grieving it has nothing to prove about the way you totally feel in your heart. Here is something that I hate myself for my dad and I were close also, I am 48 years old and 2 yrs ago I realized that my father is the only one I know that NEVER WAS IN A BAD MOOD I swear, Whats wrong with me that I never noticed this before.
Good luck to you, and remember the times you spent together
I still talk to my Dad, And he still does things for me and is
still in my heart the best father I could ever had.

I wish the best for you

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my mother 2 months before MY 21st birthday. I was about the same way. I didn't cry at first because I was in shock. Actually, I was in shock for a few days before the funeral. It might hit you later and it might not. Best thing to do is just hold your head up, and take everyday a step at a time. I'm not sure about your relationship with him, but I do know that not a day will go by for a while you don't think about him. Just remember the memories, and if it gets to hard for you when it hits you, lean on a close friend or relative, it helps, but losing your daddy will always hurt. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope everything works out for the best. It gets easier later on, I promise.

Answer 6

Sweetie, I just want to say that I'm very sorry for your loss. The reason you haven't cried is because your still in shock. Yes, you have accepted the fact that your father is gone, but the shock of it is still there. Your trying to be strong for everyone around you and yourself right now. The tears don't have to come at this moment and it doesn't mean that it's not normal to do so. People deal with death in different ways. The tears will come on their own time. Don't force the tears, just let your emotions go when they feel ready to come out. Your dealing with this in your own way. It's going to be tough, but know that your father is still with you. He may not be here in physical form, but trust me he's with you in spirit. I wish you and your family the best, and please take care of yourself. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

yeah u might be in self denial or just trying to put on a strong front. but really, ask urself how ur feeling. its most natural to cry and mourn and be upset abt it because thts how u shud feel if u really loved ur dad. so there's no need to supress ur emotions or feel shy abt it because it'll only make u feel worse ultimately. cry, let it all out and get over it. u'll feel better this way and ur dad would want u to be happy too.

Answer 8

everybody grieves differently. take care of yourself, stick with people that care about you and if your still concerned in 3-6 monthes go see a grief counsellor. That doesnt mean that I think you will be done grieving in 3-6 monthes. I think its a lifetime process. 10 years down the road something may trigger a memory and make you cry all over again. Be good to you and I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

I'm sorry for you, that is a great loss, I don't think your really trying to suppress your feelings, the time for you to mourn your father will come when you are ready, It took me 3 months to cry when my mother died, I picked up the phone to call her and realized she wasn't there anymore, but her spirit still is and I know it always will be, cry when you are ready, when you do sit down and just do it, it helped me to "talk to my mom" after her death. Be strong,and God Bless.

Answer 10

I've experience that, when my mom died a year ago. You should show your true feelings let your feelings out. Its hard when you don't want to show up how it really hurts to lose someone whom you really love. & I'm so sorry to hear that it's your dad that you lose. Sometimes we just coudn't show our emotions but you have to cry don't keep the pain inside you. You might get sick when you don't bust it out. My sympathy is w/ you. Take care...

Answer 11

I was like this for a time, when my fiancee died, i didn't shatter into pieces or cry. i just wondered around aimlessly for a while. My friends told me that it just hasn't "hit you." I was at the grocery store, and i noticed her favorite cereal. All i remember after that is my friend taking me home. If you leave them in for too long, you'll never deal with the death of your father, just like i wouldn't have dealt with the death of my fiancee. let them out hun, you'll feel a lot better.