no, what goes on in their marriage is really their business. he may already know, or she may choose to keep it from him. i hope that it was some one-time mistake on her part and that they've already worked through it, but it's not your responsibility to tell him.
2006-11-16 18:31:47
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answered by maygan.lee 1
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It's always good to be honest, and yes he does deserve to know what his wife is doing behind his back. BUT, be very careful if and how you decide to tell him. If he has no clue that she has been unfaithful, he's going to be shocked, hurt, and probably very angry. There's always the chance that he won't believe you when you say that you didn't know she was married, or even if he does believe you, he may still be upset at the thought of you being intimate with his wife, and become violent. I'm not saying don't tell him, but if you do, just be careful and definitely don't tell him while you're alone. If you feel that you have to tell him, maybe do it in a letter or over the phone, so there's less risk of him being able to do something. Good luck with whatever you decide!
2006-11-16 18:36:21
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answered by doodlebugg 3
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Better to tell her husband right away, you're not the one who destroy there family, the girl had a problem. Don't consent anything that you think is not right. How about if it happened to you? What do you think will you feel? If your wife is already doing it for you? Won't you be thank full that someone has tried to save you from being a dumb knowing other people laughing at your back because they knew your wife is having an affair to anybody else not only you nor the two of you. Better for you to tell the truth & clear your consience. Good luck & pray for them.
2006-11-16 18:33:34
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answered by housewife 2
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This really wouldn't solve anything, for him or for you. Their relationship is theirs to deal with, and you really don't know what her reasons were for cheating. Maybe he already knows. Maybe he's done the same thing to her. In any case, you would be wise to walk away from the situation and never look back. Worst case scenario-- this guy could round up a bunch of his buddies to ambush you and put you in the hospital. At the very least, you may have to deal with BS like harrassing phone calls and revenge schemes from both of them. No, you should get away from the whole thing right now. It's a bad scene that you want no part of.
2006-11-16 18:36:35
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answered by roknrolr63 4
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Do you ever see that show Cheaters? This is kind of a similar case. If you did not know she was married, than by all means, you need to tell. It may just save the marriage, who knows. For one, you need to stay away from the chick, she is trouble. Or just troubled, I can't say. You would be lying to yourself and the husband by not telling. If you feel animosity may build up between you and the guy when telling him, then the best thing to do is to bring someone with you. Or just call him, and be real with him. I think you know the right thing to do.
2006-11-16 18:34:04
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answered by liquidjesus23 2
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You are both guilty of this act..Both participated and you would only be making matters worse than they already are if you involve the husband..I think you said you left when you found out she was married, if so good for you,that was the right thing to do..They have a child which means you wouldn't be just breaking up a marriage but means you would be destroying a family.. I understand that you are just half of the problem but you are the whole solution..
2006-11-16 18:33:23
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answered by john316tdh 3
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You might want to tell him, this way they can work out their problems, some relationships get stronger because they see what is wrong and others finally end because it is not strong enough. Unfortunately it is the kids that will suffer. Maybe ask this lady why do you cheat on your husband instead of leave him, it is really a wimp that cheats and does not give their spouse the option to leave, glad you have a conscious, just make sure you feel the same way when you get married.
2006-11-16 18:32:58
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answered by whattheheck 4
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The only reason you wanna tell on her is cus you're feeling guilty as hell about what you did and what part you played in destorying a marriage where there happends to be kids involved. It's only gonna make you feel better but in that process you might be destorying not only there marriage man but also there kids.
If you want to tell the husband go ahead.. jsut think of the children first.
2006-11-16 18:32:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't get involved, this isn't your responsibility and chances are that more harm than good will come of it. I'm sure that it's tempting to say something, but try not to give in. Chances are, he either doesn't know that she's like this, in which case he won't believe you for a second or he DOES know she's like this and he will deal with his life as he sees fit. There's no way that you can understand their marriage completely (unless you believe every word she's ever spoken and she's told you her entire life story in painstaking detail) and it's possible that maybe he hasn't been the greatest husband to her over the years. Whatever you decide, good luck.
2006-11-16 18:33:41
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answered by Anonymous
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YES...but anonymously. Write a non traceable letter or note to him...that she can't intercept. Don't do it to be evil and get revenge by calling her out. Just do it because if you were married you would want to know. Cheaters defile the sanctity of marriage.
2006-11-16 18:32:53
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answered by wheresdbeach 1
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You best make sure your need to tell hubby is 'not' out of spite
on your part. Are you sure there isn't any vengeful feelings going on inside of you. Did she hurt you (reject you) ?
On the other hand, if you are 'genuinely' concerned about this
man and family then I suggest you let time and circumstances
take care of things. If she is the type to commit adultery then I
will guarentee he WILL find out eventually, for himself..
2006-11-16 18:36:44
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answered by Anonymous
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