Do You Think I Should?

Question

Ok, me and my ex bf broke up after having a really bad arguement and him calling me some really bad things and I really got hurt over him doing that. But whenever things were good between us, I really felt close to him and everything felt perfect and I still love him and have started missing him lately. So part of me wants to have that great feeling he gave me back but then another part of me keeps thinking of that bad side he has and I know I dont want to get hurt like that again but I miss him so much lately. So, do you think I should forget the things he said to me and give him another chance? or just stay away from him?, cause I know that it could happen again cause he has a bad temper.

I just want to say to everybody that helped me on this, thank you so much for your help. I think I'm realizing now, that it was more of just not wanting to feel alone than it was wanting to be with him again. So thank you for helping me realize that and helping me get through that. I really do appreciate it.

Answer 1

Stay away, far, far away. He is abusive and has problems he needs to address. You can do better.

Answer 2

If the argument was bad enough to break you two up, I think it would be best to keep your separate ways. His bad temper may only get worse. People who have bad tempers usually keep that temper most of their life, so if you don't want to deal with it, it may be better to not give him another chance. Depending on how you feel, you may just want to stay friends (if possible) with him, but give yourself a little bit of time to recompose yourself. Broken relationships take time to heal. It may be difficult to try to stay away from him because it's tempting to indulge into the thoughts of times that were good, but remember what could potentially happen if you go back to him. For your own sake, I suggest keeping a distance for the time being. If you do, in fact, feel comfortable enough going back to him in the future, then that's a decision you'll have to make carefully.

Before you decide to cut all ties with him, however, you may want to arrange a time when you two could talk diplomatically and sort things out so you don't end everything on a bad note.

Hope all goes well.

Answer 3

Good Evening-To answer this is not easy, but I will try and answer the best I can. I just answered a letter where a man thought he should beat his wife into submission. So I'm viberating bad right now. Please do what is best for you, please be safe--for me! I may not know you but he does not deserve you. He would not blow his temper IF he really loved you. Real men don't hurt women, OK. Not fiscally, NOT mentally. Let him know that you didn't like what happened, but not alone, or in person. He will Know your scared of him. If he doesn't well liefs to short if did nothing wrong Get on with your life before you get hurt even worse or seek help from your family. Most of all be safe, you have a right to life to. Good luck

Answer 4

Breaking up with someone is always hard. I know that love and feelings doesn't have a switch you could just turn off. It does take some time to get over someone.

I would suggest that you don't get back together with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself and intentionally hurts you. I know in the end you will do what feel right to you. Just make sure that you don't take him back for the wrong reasons. Maybe you're just missing that closeness, but you know what, there are wonderful people out there, why not go out and find yourself someone worth holding on to.

Answer 5

if he has a bad temper that cannot be controled (or he doesn't want to control it) then it will most likely end up getting physical. my boyfriend told me he'd never ever ever hit a woman, no matter what. then the argueing started. i thought that's as far as it would go, and i was wrong. eventually he had pushed me down. i thought that would be the only time. then one more push, then again, and everytime i'd forgive him and take him back. then, he started to actually hit me. one time, he punched me, i fell to the floor, and huddled into the corner, then he hit me two more times, while i was already on the floor and huddled into a fetal position! broke my lip open and bled from my mouth for a long time, hurt like hell and could barely eat because of the sting.

Answer 6

If he didn't have an absolute really good reason to get mad, than that means he's probably gonna snap on every little thing. In my opinion i'd say stay away from him. cause he did it once, and he could do it again, again, and again. But you could try it once more, and if he gets angry then call it quits.

Answer 7

You sort of answered your own question. It could happen again.

Could you be wanting him back because your lonely right now and would prefer to be with someone who hurt you rather than being alone until someone else comes along?

The thing you need to ask yourself is this... is the pain of being with him, worse than the pain of being without him?

Answer 8

Since he has a bad temper ..then you have to be very careful.I would advise you to stay away from him cas to hav a boyfriend who has a bad temper you have to be very patient and understanding.But if you want to give him another chance , then u really hav to be very understanding

Answer 9

guys with bad temper will always have a bad temper no matter what. if you love him that much and can deal with him than go for it but you never no whats behine door number 2.

Answer 10

No dont go and get back together with him because you will most likly get hurt and this may not be what you want to hear but deal with it. Just try to forget him i know how hard it is but just try.

Answer 11

If you've called him a name before, then you must forgive him. You two need to work together(or you need to address it with him) towards stopping calling names. I know a lot of couples that do it, and it's happened to me in one of my relationships in the past. It will only lead to relationship ruin.