Dating rules?

Question

I'm intrested in a Guy whom I meet online he is a very busy person. He says he is not ready for a serious relation but wants someone to get cozy next to him. what does he mean by this ? I'm completley new to dating , what do people talk and do on 1st dates , should I treat him as a friend but what to talk how to behave and I don't usually ware makeup b'coz I look good without it , if I don't ware will he be impressed ?? who ends the date ? should I wait for him to hug or cheek kiss me or just say bye and walk away to my car. how will I know if he is serious about this relationship and not just want to have sex with me . what hint should I observe , the ways he dresses does it mean something ? I have the habbit of talking too much about myself please please tell me how to avoid this ( I tend to be very friendly with all so I just speak my mind sometimes I tell my weakness also ) I'm planning to go in jean and t shirt will this be okay or too simple , anyways he wants a friend sowhydress

Answer 1

you will know if he isn't serious about this and just wants to have sex because he already told you. its not a good idea to always read between the lines when lines are already clear enough. all of your other questions seem to stem from your question, will he be serious about this? if he already told you in no uncertain terms that all he wants is sex, to this type of guy, i don't think you have to impress him too much to make him want you in his bed - he already does. the real question is, is he worth it for you to go through all this trouble for him and invest your time in him? for other dates that seem worth it, don't try too much to impress. do what feels good to you. impress yourself with yourself. on first dates, end it first, i'd suggest. even if only for the reason that you won't worry too much afterwards if you came on too strong. he should be the one worrying to hug or cheek kiss you, and don't wait too long if he doesn't. don't talk too much about yourself specially about your weaknesses, but try listening to him really hard when he talks, this one really works. plus, you get to know better the kind of person he is.on casual dates, go in jeans if you want to, but try a really cute blouse instead of plain t-shirts. you want to look good, don't you? so, good luck!

Answer 2

Not sure how old you are that you haven't dated and this guy wants to "get cozy", I mean if you are 19 or older then maybe but 13-14?? Nah none of that! But you did say car so I would guess you're at least 16....you want public place and maybe like a Denny's...nothing fancy. I would "ware" more than a Tshirt...something nicer. Just get to know him and if you want to know if it is serious. No sex and hold off on a kiss. Just give him a hug and say you had a nice time. If he calls back then go out nicer and kiss g'night on this one. GO SLOW! Love isn't a sprint race...more like a marathon!

Answer 3

Okay, because this is a guy you've met off the internet, my first bit of advice is to tell you to BE CAREFUL!!!

Tip #1 Before you go on a date with this guy, make sure you have something like a can of mase or a taser in your purse just in case anything happens (He doesn't have to know your business).
(note):Now, when he says that he's not ready for a relationship and that he's just looking to get cozy with somebody, it could be his way of saying he want's to have sex with you without any strings attached, that's it, nothing more, nothing less. Don't give in to having sex with him unless you feel comfortable with being around him. I wouldn't recommend having sex with him on the first date until you observe the type of person he is.

Tip#2 A good way to start an interesting conversation is by ask ing him questions about himself WITHOUT INTERRUPTING him while he answers them. This'll make observing a lot easier and it'll prevent you from talking about yourself. When he asks questions about you, tell him only what he asks. Don't excessively answer the question unless it's something you want to share. Sometimes being a little too open with people can invite them to take advantage of u.

Tip#3 Think about the conversation and what he's saying. Does he make sexual comments or tend to have the urge to talk about it a lot more than normal, or is he just a cool guy who want's Friendship.

(note): Because you are going as friends, and this is a guy you're meeting up with for the first time, the Jeans and t-shirt is a good way to dress if you're not going anywhere flashy. It shows that you're laid back and easy going, and it doesn't show any part of your body that would easily tempt him to think sexual thoughts. You don't have to worry about your appearance at all, because it is u who makes ur clothes look good, not the other way around.

Tip#4 If you're drinking something, never leave it sitting around. If you go to the bathroom and leave it at the table, get a new drink. The best way to play it off is pretend like there's a hair in it or something. (Works everytime) They even sell coasters at local drug stores to test your drink for drugs but they're too obvious...

(note): If it's an alcoholic beverage, don't overindulge...

Last but not least, be yourself. Good Luck! ;-)

Answer 4

I'm guessing you're very young. How do you know how old he is? Have you watched tv and seen the specials on pervs meeting young girls for sex? Internet dating is not advised. Of course you like him, that doesn't mean what he's told you is true.It's meant to get you to like him Make it a double date first. If you don't wear makeup normally why would you suddenly wear makeup for someone else?He wants a "cozy" relationship because he's telling you he wants sex. Don't do this alone.

Answer 5

To me when he says, he doesn't want a serious relationship but he wants to get cozy means that he only wants you for sex. Just be yourself and let the date casually unfold if you still want to go out with him. At the end if you feel awkward you don't have to give him a kiss, and you can end it by leaving with a hug or handshake.

Answer 6

Okay, calm down...first, just the fact that he said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship...and then, to quote from your post...

says he is not ready for a serious relation -->how will I know if he is serious about this relationship

but wants someone to get cozy next to him -->and not just want to have sex with me

Um, I think you should stay away, until he says he's ready for a serious relationship. Why go for it if it won't go anywhere?

Answer 7

If she wants to sleep with me on the first date, she ain't worth marrying....and it gaurantees a second date won't happen. I know....strange coming from a guy, but there are nice guys (like me) out there!

Answer 8

When he says that he wants to get cosy with you- he means that he is interested in sex. He does not want to be serious-he does not want a serious relationship with you. You should cancel the date. Quit talking to him!

Answer 9

he sounds like trouble

get his full name and address, where he works and his picture and check him out

meet him in a public place with some friends with you

be sure there are security cameras and that your friends have all the info on him

i think he is married and is looking for sex

i could be wrong

go slow and careful

Answer 10

he is just looking for a lay, have some self respect and don't put yourself in that situation, you deserve better