I moved in with my parents when my fiancee cancelled the wedding after learning that we are expecting twins.?

Question

Now I'm in a nursing school - hopefully would finisch in May. My father was verbally abusive to my mother as long as I can remember, and long time ago did beat her up pretty bad never happen since, just some minor pushes.
I had no place to go since I've lost my job - missed to many days due to pregnancy complications. When my kids were 6 mo old my would-have-been father in law and my mother encouraged me to apply to nursing school, even though I had no income...
My father was pretty good, considering his character and even helped with twins sometimes...However, it is not easy to share home with toddlers, especially twins, and gradually he become more irritable and finally exploded beating me up - no serious injuries or bruises on the face, though.
My ex-fiancee does not earn much money and is basically waiting until he can get either his inheritance or retirement money. What are my options? I still depend on my parents for financial support...Would I be able to survive on my own?

Answer 1

You are the type who truly needs assistant from the government. You can even get housing through them. You should call or go to their office. They will help you get on your feet. They will help with food, daycare, bills, housing, and even get you transportaion. You can make it on your own. Don't wait...call.

Answer 2

On your own may be the only way you can survive. Please don't stay there another minute. Your children deserve a better life than this. .congratulations on going to school! In the near future you will be able to financially take care of yourself and your precious children, but in the meantime go to a woman's shelter. They will help you to get on your feet. Don't spend another night in that home! If you wait until the injuries are more serious your children may not have a mother. The shelter will explain all of your options and help you to get started on a new life. Do this for the children now, before it goes to far! Good luck to you, You can do this. If you don't know how to find a women's shelter check with a church or police dept. Help is there for you, take it please

Answer 3

You already ARE a survivor PA girl ! You must get yourself into seeing a good counsellor. Your life is in shambles, as you already know. Your boyfriend didn't do you any favours by cancelling out on the responsibility of his children. He is a real "rat" for dumping the burden on you to raise his progeny [children]. Your father laid a beating on you because of the twins, did he? This is assault with battery and is a felony ! Have the SOB thrown in the slammer [jail] ! You are both, emotionally and physically beat up ! Your boyfriend - emotionally; your father -physically ! Get the counselling before you head off on your own. Good luck to you !!!

Answer 4

you can definately mak it on your own. i would start by applying for an apartment or a house wher your rent is based on your income. you can call the department of human services (public aid office) and they should be able to tell you where these homes or apartments are located. you and your children are not safe being in a home where there is physical abuse going on. you don't want them growing up thinking that is normal. kids that grow up in abusive situations become abusive themselves. a friend of mine did this and she had 3 kids and her rent each month was only $34 seriously that is way cheap. anyways if you are not working while you are going to school, you might want to consider getting a part time job waitressing or something not very stressful so you can still focus on your studies. you would also be able to qualify for food stamps and medical insurance for you and your kids. but you need to be honest with them about your situation. tell them that it's abusive and sometimes they have apartments for these kinds of situations alone. but in return, if you get the help from the public aid office, they will go after your ex for child support which he should be paying anway, afterall you didn't get pregnant by yourself. if someone calls dcfs on you , you can get your kids taken away for having them in an unstable and dangerous environment. you obviously sound like a good mother by going to school and trying to make something of yourself, and doing whatever it takes to support the kids financially, but there are groups of people out there wiling to help people in this kind of siituation. please, explore your options and do it asap. i'm not sure what state you are in, but i live in indiana, and have also lived in illinois and these options are available here. i'm sure they are available wherever you live too. good luck.

Answer 5

What state are you in?
In California you could get county assistance and medical. And help getting on your feet.

Call a womans shelter and get some help. Please don't let your twins grow up in a home where you live in fear.

Your X fiancie should be helping you financially.

Sounds like he is a loser. Don't have your trins repeat family history ok?

Start fresh new and in a positive envirorment

Answer 6

It may be possible.......with some help from the twins daddy.
He may not hafta marry you. But he should be providing some kind of financial support for his children. Perhaps a consultation with a good attny would be very beneficial for you. ;)

Answer 7

If I was you I would save up little by little and if he hit you question did you call the police if not why didn't you if he ever hits you again you need to call the police right away ( or your mother ) because if he hits you and her what makes you think he won't hit your kids

Answer 8

yes it will take alot of work on your part, There is organizations that will help you ,even churches