He made me drive him home when I was drunk: Should I speak to him, ever again?

Question

This man made me drive him home when I am drunk, refused to call me a cab, and I got totally ******* lost on the way home. I left him 2 messages saying I was lost. He never called me back to ask me if I was alive or dead. I saw him in class 4 days after this incident and he lamely asked me "How are you?". I glared at him and did not reply and have ignored him on campus ever since.

Basically - is there any way his behaviour is excusable? Even if I excuse him making me drive him home drunk and refusing to call the cab, I cannot excuse his utter neglect in not calling me the next day to see if I'm OK.

I feel as if he MUST apologize and explain his behaviour before I speak to him properly again. Am I being a hard-***, or is this reasonable? Will he understand that I am looking for an apology/explanation?

Thanks to all who gave responses. But to the people who said "You should have called a cab" and called me a "drunk" -

a. I drank after 2 years of teetotalling and it went to my head sooner than I expected

b. When you are drunk, your judgment is impaired - WHICH IS WHY A SOBER PERSON SHOULD LOOK OUT FOR YOU INSTEAD OF PUTTING YOU IN DANGER.

c. The explanation that he behaved like this because I pissed him off, rings true. However, it reflects poorly on him. There should be limits to what people do even when they are angry.

Answer 1

he wasnt worried about you when you had to drive home drunk, so dont waste another second worrying about him...

Answer 2

Believe me you don't need someone like that in your life, not even as a friend. He just doesn't care, so why should you. By refusing to call that cab he didn't just put your life at risk, but anyone else that might have been on the road or a pedestrian. Ignore him, forget about him and rather surround you with people that actually value your life and friendship.

Just a word of advice, try not to get drunk next time and putting yourself in these kind of situations. Also have the number of a cab company with you so you could rather phone them yourself if this should happen again.

Answer 3

Is there a reason you couldn't call a cab on your own? Or was there no one else to ride home with? I guess I don't quite understand in what way you were "made" to drive home drunk, but I'll take your word on it and tell you that anyone who would in any way encourage another person to get behind the wheel while intoxicated and then not even care about human life enough to be sure that everything was alright afterward is not even worth trying to get an apology or explanation from because it would only be empty, shallow words with no meaning "from the heart" (so to speak) behind them. Be safe, okay? :)

Answer 4

Wow! Way to shift the blame on someone else for YOU doing something totally stupid! How did he force you to drive drunk? Did he put a gun to your head? Did he strap you in the car and tie your hands to the wheel? Seriously. I find this very confusing.

You state that you called and left him two messages saying you were lost. Is there a reason you were unable to call someone else you know and have them come get you? Or why the hell didn't you call a cab yourself? You can dial his number but you can't call a cab? Didn't know the number? Then try information.

I'm not saying this guy is blameless. He sounds like an *** who doesn't give 2 cents about you. But you are pretty ticked off at him when you need to be looking at your own part in all of this.

No one made you drive home drunk. You made that choice all on your own. You're lucky to be alive and you're lucky you didn't kill someone else.

Answer 5

You are fudging crazy. No matter how drunk you were, you were "sober" enough to drive him home with his direction. You should have, at that point, been "sober" enough to call your own cab. It takes a lot more brains to drive a car (which you did) than to dial a phone (which you didn't). You got lost because you didn't know where you were, not because you were drunk. You made it OK to his house didn't you ? I don't know about you but the further I drive the more sober I get. This whole thing is about how you were acting while you were drunk. You did something to really p!ss him off if he wanted you to take him home. If you were as drunk as you claim most guys would be trying to get in your pants at that point not wanting to go home. Your behavior caused him not to want to have anything else to do with you if he failed to call you after wards. Don't you get It ? You must have acted lick a first class ***** and done something to really p!ss him off. Get over him. He is probably over you.

Answer 6

How dare he! He could at least have tried to take advantage of you just at your most vulnerable. Maybe if he had beat the crap out of you then dumped you somewhere would have been better. Your so right in taking no responsibility for getting plastered. No matter what he had planned or what situation he may be in, the nerve to not drop everything to call a not-so-common drunk to inquire if she has a heartbeat. I'll bet the next time you go somewhere and become a public pain in the ***,your expectations will be made more clear to those who have enough compassion to make sure you get dumped off safe and unharmed. Make them sign a contract before taking on the job of baby-sitting cheap, boozed up, spoiled nit-wit like you.

Answer 7

Let's be honest... if he didn't care enough to call you a cab and or check on you to see if you were ok, then don't expect an apology from him, cuz he just doesn't care. Do you honestly believe an apology from him would be sincere?

Why would you want to even continue to have someone in your life who obviously could care less about your well being??

Let him go... you deserve better!

Answer 8

Why should he apologize? You put yourself in that situation, you just assumed that he was going to take you home? How about your own behavior? Is it excusable to him? Maybe you should give him an explanation as to why you got drunk. Obviously he didn't. Maybe he doesn't care if you don't "properly" speak to him again. Maybe you should stop drinking so the next time no one else will be to blame and you can find your way home.

Answer 9

Sorry I have a problem with this, He made you? You have a choice! Did he threatening your life with a weapon? Hold you at gun or knife point? You could have walked, called someone or stayed where you were at. What if you were arrested or killed? I would tell him you will never do that again and be done with him. Next time consider all your ways out of that situation.

Answer 10

First of all if you knew you were drunk then why did you drive ? Second a person cannot make you doing anything .... Third why blame anyone or expect an explanation from anyone when you made that choice ...

Answer 11

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