i am in relation with a boy from last 8 months, We are in love with each other .He is now working in abroad but he is from India.The boy is also from a well to do family .We both want to get married but the boys parents has refuse me to accept as their daughter in law and the boy is finding difficult to go against his parents wish .My parents have also met him and they find him genuine person .But now when he is not able to commit .My parents want me to get married with some one else at the earliest because i am 25 in my age .And they think if i donot get married now then it will be difficult for me to get other proposals at an elderly age
Can u please advise
2006-11-16 17:25:09 · 11 answers · asked by me f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ignore your parents, they are paranoid. As for the boy, see what happens. It'll be tough but if you love him then stick it out.
2006-11-16 17:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First. Ignore a_bike_guy.
Second. 25 and over is not elderly. With all due respect to your parents, and to his, you are an adult and are in a relationship with another adult. So what you two do is both your decisions, not your parents. But remember that your parents are intending to look out for your best interests. Are you looking out for your best interests, or are you just fighting them because they are fighting you. If it's meant to be, a little time to tell won't kill either one of you. Besides, 8 months is not long. Be patient. You may find that neither of you LIKE each other enough to marry, even though you FEEL love.
2006-11-17 01:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by katya_annalotovich_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not an elderly person at age 25. Don't rush into marriage just because of your age. I hope that somehow things work out for you and your boyfriend. If they don't take your time finding a husband.
2006-11-17 01:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems that cultural divide is at play once again. Honestly, I don't think he loves you as much as he claims, otherwise, he would find a way for his parents to accept you. His love for family, tradition, and personal image must outweigh his love for you if he listens to his parents. Truthfully, do you think you could be happy with someone who is too afraid to bring shame to himself and his family because he is marrying someone from another culture? Let him decide for himself and you will have your answer. Find a man that loves you, and appreciates you for everything that you are--a man that won't be afraid to walk in public with you even if you wear sweats and have bed-hair. Additionally, although I'm sure that your parents only want the best for you, please refrain from taking their advice to heart. Because they are still thinking in terms of the "good ol'days" when women needed to get married before she lost her youth--so that she could find a man with a decent job that could support her and a family. I'm sure that you are more than capable of supporting yourself, otherwise, rushing into marriage without sincere love or understanding is like sky-diving without a parachute. Best wishes...
2006-11-17 01:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by haithere_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Customs differ in different countries, are you able to support yourself? Why is it so important that you marry? Do you just want to get married to get married?
2006-11-17 01:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by wonder woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront them and make them see that u are also genuine! Give it more time and i know they will come around!
2006-11-17 01:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously just find another man, it has only been 8 months
2006-11-17 01:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by half insane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you guys i wouldnt care so much about what other people think, lifes to short do what makes you guys happy
been there
2006-11-17 01:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, those indian males are creepy. havent you come across them on yahoo chat?
2006-11-17 01:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is to rare to throw if he loves you and you love him then do not let go of him all risks are worth it when you love sombody
2006-11-17 01:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by skm2511 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋