So, I asked a guy I work with to go to a wedding with me because I didn't want to go alone and he's a fun guy. He said he'd go, but ended up having to cancel, however, he asked if he could take me out on a date at a different time. I said yes. In the meantime, we hung out a couple times with people from work and had a couple drinks, but couldn't find a day that worked for both of us to go on this date. So, I text him the other day and asked if the date was still an option...no response...called to invite him to watch a movie....no response. When we are at work, he will make a point to talk to me and is flirtatous. I don't get it. Obviously he was interested enough to ask me out, but now doesn't answer my call or respond? Confuse the heck out of me! And now I feel akward around him at work.
2006-11-16 17:22:42 · 10 answers · asked by prittyblueyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like you are his fall back girl!
If he truly wanted to date you, he would have made time period. Sounds to me like he knows you are attracted to him and men (women too in fact) always enjoy positive attention from the opposit sex.
You deserve to be number one, and you need to ask yourself... If you really liked someone... would you keep postponing a date??
Move on and don't stay stuck on asking why...
2006-11-16 17:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I be blunt! Your on "standby"! OK, let me put this gently. Here's how the petroleum industry drills for oil. They send out geologists that do all kinds of crazy tests and then pinpoint certain areas that are likely to produce some results and have a high probability to be productive. So they pick one and start drilling for oil, but all the other sites are put on "standby"! Now if they drill and nothing happens, they pack up and move all there equipment to another promising site and start all over again. What your looking for is a one man prospector. You know, the guy that shows up with one shovel and one pick all on the back of a skinny donkey. He's a little slow in the digging but he's got everything invested in the shovel, pick and donkey so he's digging for life. He'll stick around and peck at it until he strikes gold or it kills him. Those are the guys you should be looking for.
2006-11-16 17:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by cuttlekid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested and has not evolved to the point of telling you this. Dating co-workers can be a little tricky. I knew of one employer who frowned on any of his employees dating one another. In any event, he seems not interested at all. Go out with someone who really wants to spend an evening with you (like me). I love to go to wedding and receptions.
2006-11-16 18:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just leave him alone cuz all he is dewin is playin games....somethin that guys love to dew... leave his *** alone talk to him only when you feel like being bother not when you think oh i guess i can talk to him cuz he's hott. NO HELL NO.....leave him alone make him run after you then once you have him where you want him DROP HIS ***... then hopefully he'll learn his lesson that don't mean you go after him.... if he really wants to be with you he'll come after you until you say yes. make him wait a while a long time. then you play his ***.. fight fire with fire! Hopefully i helped the best way i could. Let me kno if i did please.
2006-11-16 17:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by ~*BuGs*BuNnY*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no need to feel awkward cause you did nothing wrong. a similar situation happened to me but it was b/c the guy had a girlfriend. i think he just wanted to lead you on and be flirtatious. but since he's not interested then i say you should move on. guys do that sometimes. when they're into a girl and then find another girl their into, they have to pick one of them. when they do the other one gets hurt. its his lost at the end. just remember if he later wants to get with you, tell him its too late.
2006-11-16 17:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him face to face? Maybe he doesn't check his phone or didn't recognize your number. Maybe he doesn't even have text messaging. Face to face would work better cuz its hard to lie or ignore if you are right there. If nothing else, forget about it! If you truly do have "pritty blue eyes" you'll find another! You live in IL? lol }:-)
2006-11-16 17:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes texting doesn't work at all. My Yahoo messenger screws up so maybe he didn't get your message. Instead of phoneing or texting him ask him straight out at work .. "Hi you would like to go to the movies with me on such and such a night ? " chance your days at work ( like one day ) to get one of his days off..then ask him for that day face to face..if he makes up an excuse them forget him and move on...I think he's onlyplaying with your head anyways or else he would have like atttempt to change his day to get it off when you had a day off to go on this date with ya.
hope i could help..
2006-11-16 17:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him the same way he treats you. He is one of those guys who believe there is a certain window and if it doesnt happen then it isnt meant to be. Either that or he is a huge flirt.
2006-11-16 17:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it obvious he has a fantasy about doin someone at work in a janitors cupboard. just drag him in yourself and get wild and nasty, make his day / week / year.
2006-11-16 17:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him.....he is an idiot. I am sure there are many smarter and fun guys than him.
2006-11-16 17:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Aparna B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋