Ok i met this girl a little over a month ago and we do like each other ive said it and so has she and i know its a lil fast but i do want to ask her out. But, she says she wants to focus on school for a little bit before she gets into a relationship and isnt ready for one. she says if i want to i can wait if i dont thats fine too and believe me i do want to wait im just wondering would i be wasting my time if i wait and could this "waiting period" benefit us later on when we hopefully get together.
2006-11-16 17:06:15 · 10 answers · asked by The kid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a toughy. Spend time with her, as much as possible - studying together, movies, shopping, etc. Show her what it would be like to be in a relationship with you. Then the waiting period will be over.
2006-11-16 17:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really want this to happen, you should wait. people are impatient these days and they'll tell you to move on. but if this is a girl you might fall in love with, let her finish school. you already said you two like each other, it's not like she doesn't like you.
are people suppose to give up school just so that they can date you? no.. so let her finish school. doesn't mean she's rejecting you, she's just protecting your heart because she knows she can't give you time right now. i think what sh'es doing is a very MATURE thing to do. and a mature girl is worth the wait. just because two people like each other, doesn't mean they have to be together right away. you have to look at the circumstances.
sometimes "finding a way to work things out" is to wait.
take it slow. if she continues to talk to you, then continue waiting (if you want). if she doesn't talk to you, then you should move on.
2006-11-16 17:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kid: There is nothing wrong with waiting. Can you ask her out for a walk and a talk - perhaps a coffee or cup of tea? This is one, smart girl ! She not getting sucked into the vortex of going steady and places her education (future) ahead of it all. Tell her that you respect her choice to put romance on the back burner. I was wondering if she was burned from a previous relationship? May be not ! Good luck to you "kid" !!!
2006-11-16 17:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - ask yourself what "asking someone out" means. Hanging out with someone? People can spend time together, develop a friendship, provide support to each other - we all need that in this world - and its no drain on anyone's life - as long as there is respect all around.
Instead of making this all formal and "asking her out" and stuff - ask her if she would like a friend. If you care about her, you should be willing to be that, at least. Keep the lines of communication open. When the time comes, you can see if she and you want to go further.
2006-11-16 17:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a classic line... it's a polite out.
She doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but she isn't interested in a relationship with you. By telling you that she can't right now and that you don't have to wait, basically says she hopes you don't wait.
If she was really attracted to you, she would find a way to make the relationship work.
Sorry
2006-11-16 18:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax because it sounds like you already got your hopes way to high. Just take it a day at a time give her the space she seems to need and wait for her to come to you. If she doesn't come around and you feel it is taking to long for it than move on. Most women have a very good reason for not wanting to be involved, you should respect her decision.
-NmD!
2006-11-16 17:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you the truth, that she's not interested. If she meant what she said about liking you, she'd find a way for it to work. Tell me, when was the last time she made an effort towards you?
2006-11-16 17:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sugestion is to juz leaf her. U can find so many other gals. She is not ready for 1 means tat she dont wan u or anyone else. Try this... Go and ask her again weather she wans to b ur gf and tell her u only going to ask her this last time and no more. let her consider. If she says no... don take it seriously. Go ahead for other gals. Life must go on.
2006-11-16 17:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by veether 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its ok to wait for her but dont give up on everyone else in the process. dont get so fixated on her that you pass up somthing that may be way better. your worrying to much just live your life and what ever happens, happens.
2006-11-16 17:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by joe kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes just too nice to tell you straight, u suck and she thinks you are a dork.
2006-11-16 17:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋