I want to go futher..but what should i do before sex?????

Question

Whats next?
i want to take things slow but i want to take things to the next level, me and my guy havent done anything but just cuddle and kiss, well i want to get more intimate with him without going to fast and just jumping right to sex.....so do you have any ideas on what i can do with him while we are together? like i said i want to go slow so please dont suggest oral sex, or anything like that right away, i'm looking for something else...please be specific, and give me ideas that can lead all the way up to sex.....Thanks

Answer 1

Assuming you are looking for stages between 'kissing' and 'intercourse', there is plenty of room for exploration. Petting has been mentioned - on top of clothing, under clothing, partial undressing - and is a good place to start. You're not under the pump in any way, so you can take it as fast or as slow as you like (ie, not all in one night). As things progress, manual (hand) and oral (mouth) stimulation can be worked in if you feel that's where you want to go.

The golden rule is keep an open line of communication, especially if things get hot and heavy or go beyond what is comfortable. Also, just because you've said things can go a little further, make it known you don't mean "in the next 30 seconds" - this is one area where slow works well. Finally, you can back it up if it goes somewhere you're not ready for.

This isn't a cut and dry area, so my last word is this. Know what you're ready for and know what you are prepared for. You are in for some (hopefully pleasant) suprises, but that's human physiology for you. Just laugh it off, and cuddle up while you recover...

Play nice... Play safe... Have fun...

Answer 2

Cuddling is great but why in the world do you want to have sex and take the chance of getting pregnant? That's nuts. There is NO safe sex (even with protection). Why don't you just enjoy romantic evenings together and enjoy each other's company? When sex becomes a high priority (you've GOT to do it), the relationship becomes a LOW priority and you eventually have nothing. I just do not understand why you girls think you have to give sex to get love. It is NOT necessary. For that matter guys have an issue too. They say "I love you" just to get sex (without any other commitment) and they are NOT IN LOVE.

You need to rethink your relationships. You are going to get hurt and badly if you don't.

Answer 3

Massaging!
This is a great way for you to get up, close and personal in a practicla way - everyone loves massages! Buy some scented oils or just use lotions you might have at home and offer it or ask it.
You can tease him by striping your top but showing him your back. This is also a way for you to focus on eachother: you can talk or be quiet, it's just good quality time.

Answer 4

Erm... u can actually tell him about it,Who noes? Maybe he is tinking about the same thing as u. U can also have imitate actions wif him in romantic nights n such.The best is still get married,after all sex is still sth reserved for marriage

Answer 5

cuddling and kissing are the most closest things to sex but there is alittle foreplay, but it sounds to me you just want ur cake and eat it too

Answer 6

Anything you do after kissing will lead to intercourse. Quit being a tease.

Answer 7

why not oral sex? just do it and stop beating around the bush. you risk him going off and getting a $2 hooker other wise and once he gets a taste of them, he'll be history.

Answer 8

the answer is within you-you were born with it-it will come at the time you are ready just like walking did.

Answer 9

touchy feely moster is lurking rounf u 2

Answer 10

He's a guy. nuff said on that. Do what you need for you to get there. He was there when he first saw you.