For the past two months I've been dating a guy who I thought was wonderful. I'm 26 and he is 27. He always picked me up and took me out every weekend and some weeknights. We recently had sex for the first time, but he didn't stay over...he never stays over. I asked him why he never takes me to his home and he says he didn't want his children to get attached to me just in case we didn't work out. I totally bought it thinking "wow this guy is a great father".
Last night a good friend of mine called and said she ran into him at a restaurant...with a woman who called herself his wife. My friend said he was very rude to her and when my friend asked "who's this" the wife said "I'm his wife and who are you?" My friend said she just walked away.
What I'm curious to know is do I tell her....or do I just leave it alone and hope he gets what he deserves? I feel so betrayed...I can't even imagine how she would feel. I don't want to be a homewrecker...what do I do
2006-11-16 16:58:57 · 10 answers · asked by GreatDivide 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've tried to call him and he had his cell disconnected. I don't know where he lives and his secretary at work said he's on vacation. Do you think I would feel better just telling him off?
2006-11-16 17:00:04 · update #1
I just wanted to clear up the fact that I DON
T WANT HIM!! lol...I'm over it, I wasn't in love with him...and I don't want to see him ever again, I just didn't know if she should know or not.
2006-11-16 17:16:20 · update #2
My opnion is I think you should tell her. What if she doesn't know...what if she doesn't think her husband is a cheat? I mean, I didn't. I had no idea until he told me. I'm glad I found out.
You have to follow your heart and choose what you feel is right.
But remember if this was you and your husband had a side dish, would you want to know?
2006-11-16 17:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by HarleeNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You positively will not win in this situation. I'm sure you are a wonderful giving person, don't let his cheating fool you - he's a jerk. Totally separate yourself from this situation and move on as fast as you can. He is a liar and a snake. His wife already knows he's a cheat. He will try to come back in your life, to keep you on the side, that was his plan. Don't take him personally, he would have done this to anyone. Just don't let him slither out of his hole and bite you again. He's poison, stay away.
2006-11-17 01:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well can you live with yourself if you broke up a marriage and maybe damaged the kids in the process ?? I mean it's not the kids fault that the guy is a scumbag..!!!! but I understand you want revenge for being used by someone. So can you ruin there childrens life cus you want to see this prick suffer and get whats owed to him ?? well ??
2006-11-17 01:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably would feel better telling him off but what is the point?
He is a dog! and believe me I bet his wife knows he is a dog just like during the relationship you knew that something was up with him.
Just cut your loses and be happy that the relationship didn't get further than it did!
2006-11-17 01:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kia_1998 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to let your conscious guide you. If I were that women, I would want to know. I know its tough, but she has a right to know the kind of man she is married to. You are not a homewreaker. A homewreaker is someone who goes out and seduces a married man, you didnt know he was married.
If you tell her now, she might be able to move on with her life while she is still young. What happens if he does this, and she finds out at 45 that hes been cheating on her thru their marriage. It'll be better for her if she finds out now. I knew a women who was like 65 and found our her husband had been cheating on her for over 30 years, she was absolutely devastasted, she felt like her whole life had been a lie. Like I said, put your self in that women's shoes, and ask yourself "would you want to know"
2006-11-17 01:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't imagine how shocked and hurt you felt after finding out he had a wife all along. I'm sorry this happened.
Just drop him and try to forget him. If he tries to call you, hang up on him. Don't return his messages. He'll get the hint.
Don't bother telling the wife. She won't believe you and you'd be wasting your time with her. Let her find out on her own -which she will sooner or later.
2006-11-17 01:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's been caught red-handed. You need to let it go, if you dwell on it and need to get the final word, you're only hurting yourself. Granted, it would be satisfying, but he's gone to extensive lengths for a reason.
2006-11-17 01:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm evil so i would, but its not going to do anything but hurt his wife and kids and break up their marriage possibly...In this situation, i say do whats going to make you feel good...You owe him nothing and he is a scumbag for cheating on his wife....
2006-11-17 01:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..doesnt that mean he's cheating on his wife?
if you're confident enough you could talk to her about, but make sure that she understands that you had no idea that he was still/was married
i think the best thing to do afterwards is to forget about him
2006-11-17 01:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by elusive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! He'll get his! She probably already knows!
2006-11-17 01:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by pitman L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋