i had relationship with my boyfriend since 4 yrs. we loved each other very much. but we break up bzoe he said he cant marry me because of his family & society, and now he has started avoiding me since 1 & half year. in starting he met me talked me but from the last 6 months he is behaving like i am a stranger for him. and he moreover look at other side & stand where he can not see me. i know that he loves me. but i cant tolrate his behaviour anymore, because i love him & i cant see that i am nothing for him.
i want to forget him, but some how i am not able to doing this. i am thinking of him every second, i always talk about him with my friends, i dont know how could i forget him. i cant do unjustice with my parents only because of him. they love me so much. i just want to forget him any how. i will be thank ful who can give me support.
2006-11-16 16:53:48 · 8 answers · asked by Jeny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow that seems like a really vague reason for him being unable to marry you. I'll get the obvious things out of the way first lol. If the man won't be with you because of family and society, believe me, he is not worth having. If he won't ignore stigma to be with someone he loves, maybe he doesn't really understand love at all. But that's only my opinion.
To the matter of the question now! Don't talk about him if you can help it. Bringing him up only makes your mind reel with thoughts and regrets that aren't healthy for you to harbor anymore. I know how cliche this is, but to find a distraction really is a great way to help. The less free time you have to think about him, the easier this is going to be for you in the long run. Our local theater is filled with volunteers and actors and singers who joined just to get over an ex, lol, and it's just a night and day difference, seeing these people after as little as a week or so of volunteering. If that's not your thing, maybe try some journaling or creative writing, that can be such a great release and sometimes it can help you see your situation in a different light.
On a side note, no one expects you to forget him, that's a horrible thing for someone to want from you and I hope that no one does. Forgetting solves nothing, only makes us weaker, so please don't try that. It feels impossible, I imagine, but look back on this in a year and I'm willing to bet you'll be pleasantly surprised by how far you've come. Good luck to you.
2006-11-16 17:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can not be speedy or worry-free. all of us choose there have been an on-off swap yet there's no longer. based how long you have been mutually and how close you have been it may take months or perhaps years to recover from. in spite of the undeniable fact that it does not would desire to suck each and every of the time. before everything it definately is going to be undesirable, you would be very unhappy. as a manner to make it much less confusing on your self you will desire to start up by utilising reducing touch with him. If this implies deleting his variety and blocking off his myspace, fb, in spite of then do it. finally do issues you get exhilaration from. draw close out with acquaintances and kin and initiate off a sparkling pastime. Idleness is your enemy because it relatively is going to easily reason you to experience sorry for your self. bear in mind time will heal all.
2016-10-15 15:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by andry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to talk to other guys. I've been exactly where you are now. My gf dumped me because her family wouldn't approve. Then she acted like i didn't exist. I just started talking to other girls and realized its her loss. I still miss her and i haven't found a girl near as wonderful as her but at least I'm functioning. I know some are out there and I will find one. Good luck.
2006-11-16 17:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear .......this guy has taken you for granted......the best thing you can do to yourself is kick his *** and move on. You don't have to miserable or guilty, this happens to all of us. Just take this episode as a learning experience. It should make you a better human being. Let it go.....Your suffering is over. This guy will have his share of suffering, don't you worry, remember what goes around, comes around. This guy is definitely a loser, don't compromise anything for a loser.
2006-11-16 17:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Aparna B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life, my dear. Find a new boyfriend and you won't give the old one a second thought. There many fish in the sea!
2006-11-16 17:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best way to get over someone is to avoid them. I know it took me almost two plus years after I met this woman (different story here though , she never loved me back ). ..I had to cut off all contact with her just to even begin to heal. I know it sucks when you really love someone. but look at it as it wasn't ment to be ..move on before its too late...I met this one girl on here who said she would wait forever to get back with her ex ..I told her just get over him cus he'll never come back.. but its her choice as it is your choice. You have to choice to move on and find someone that deserves you...
if you need to talk you can contact me.
2006-11-16 17:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignor him and get a new bf
2006-11-16 17:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say kill him,,lol just kidding just ignor him he souunds like an ***
2006-11-16 16:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by pooh_female 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋