i have a boyfriend of one year and i love him. but what really others me is that he lies to me. hes lies because he thinks he needs to be "cool" and on top of his game. for example he lied about my birthday gift. he said he got me a birthday gift but he hasnt given it to me yet. my birthday was a month ago. ive confronted him about him lying but he still lies to me. its obvious when he lies also. his cousins and stuff knows that he lies. what should i do?
2006-11-16 16:43:37 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
seriously? i know, you know what you should do...but alright...i'll push you some more..
you have to break it with him otherwise your relationship will all be based on lies which is not good...one of the many purpose of having a boyfriend is to make you happy and not to make you miserable!...so think about it..
2006-11-16 18:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I give you tons of credit for staying with him for an entire year! It seems to me that you have a good heart and maybe a person who seems to disrespect you doesn't deserve your heart.
Has he always lied like this? If so, then I can't encourage you enough to leave him because this isn't going to stop. If this isn't just a one-situation sort of thing (the b-day gift...happy birthday btw), he's likely guaging how you react, what your responses are, what you do or don't believe, and he will become a more skillfully deceptive boyfriend for it, unfortunately. Not the sort of guy that anyone deserves, most definitely not someone who has been with him for a full year already.
Of course, if he is lying only about the gift and has never lied before, is it possible that he couldn't afford a gift and he's too proud to tell you, so he's waiting to save up money and buy you one? I hate to admit it, but I've pulled that one before when I was broke. And I've gotten dumped for it lol. Not something I would ever advise, but a common mistake in guys.
I hope this helps you a bit, good luck!
2006-11-16 16:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just dump him. Don't let him lie to you again. Lying is a form of disrespect and dishonesty for the other party. You wldn't want a guy who cheat and lie to you all the time. Pls leave this cheaterbug before you get another lie from him again. How long can you be with him if he keeps lying? If there's no honesty in a relationship, it'll definitely not go far and will end up breaking off eventually. Is that what you really want after devoting so much of your love & yourself to him? You definitely deserve someone much better than him! Go look for a greener pasture!!
2006-11-16 17:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN as fast as you can. The lies only get bigger and more messed up. I had a boyfriend who would lie about what gas station he filled up at and still to this day can't figure out what the point was. He was a pathalogical lier as your bf sounds like and they just keep lieing and piling on new lies to hide the old ones and it gets pathetic.
2006-11-16 16:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi i'm sorry that your boyfriend is lying to you ! you need to tell him that it bothers you so very much when he lies tell him that you don't like to be lied to tell him that when he lies about little stuff it makes you think he will lie about big stuff like if he says he loves you do you realy know that he loves you when he has lied in the past? tell him that he needs to stop lying to you its very unhealthy for your relationship tell him that if he does not stop lying you can't see him any more . listen if he loves you and if he truly cares for you he will stop lying to you once he hears this.... if your relationship does not workout don't worrie you will find a guy who won't lie to you and he will love you finding your true love is hard it not easy but if you give it time your prince charming will come and you will live happily ever after ! I Wish you the Best of Luck!
2006-11-16 17:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Heather F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend ended up marrying this guy she loved so much (even though he continuously lied to her - and to everyone around them).. they are now divorced.
It may be hard to leave him, but it really is the better thing to do for your life in the long run. For your own sanity, happiness, and overall satisfaction of life. It hurts when they lie. Feeling hurt one time after another can even end up making you ill.
Be strong! Be brave. You'll make the right decision.
2006-11-16 16:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guy has no respect for you, you will always doubt your relationship with him as you won't know when he is being truthfull with you. Might sound harsh but if he lies continuously then ditch him, he will never change.
2006-11-16 16:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Roosterfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me dump him ASAP. I dated a guy that lied all the time and even would start to believe his lies. I never knew what was a lie and what was the truth. As you know it is just one big headache and it is better if you just moved on.
2006-11-16 16:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would fine some one else. You don't need to be lie to if he is doing that now just wait it will get worst. Get out there an find some one that will do what they say as long as you let him he is going to keep walking all over you. DON'T LET THIS CREEP KEEP YOU FROM A HAPPY LIFE.
2006-11-16 16:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you need a lowlife like him for? Surely you have more self esteem than to put up with his lies. This is not love. You are being needy. Move on and do better.
2006-11-16 16:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋