Today, my neighbor's son came over to play with my little brother. Our little puppy, bit the neighbor's finger because he was bothering it (poking it, putting mud on it) When the little boy started crying because my puppy bit him, my neighbor got angry at me, saying that I wasnt "supervising" him well. The next day, he came again to play with my little brother. I put the puppy in the house. But today, the neighbor's son destroyed all of our plants and broke one of our brooms and threw our balls into the other neighbor's house. Therefore, I told him to leave and go home. He glared at me and raced to his house. A few minutes later, the father of the little boy comes and gets angry at me for telling his son to leave.
Did i really do something bad?
2006-11-16 16:41:15 · 19 answers · asked by WsUpiTzM3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the neighbor's son is 4th grade now. Is he too young to understand what he is doing?
2006-11-16 16:53:58 · update #1
I did not really discipline him, just told him to go home. Also, I was supervising him, but I was just going to give the dog his daily food and water. Er...
2006-11-16 16:56:03 · update #2
I don't think you did. I think he should teach his kid not to be disrespectful. It's never to early to learn manners!
2006-11-16 16:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by kylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the neighbour's son?
If he's very young, then I think you may be at fault. Small children require constant supervision to make sure they don't come to harm (e.g. by tormenting little dogs until they get bitten) and to make sure they don't do things that are fun and which they don't realise are wrong (e.g. destroying the plants). If you didn't provide that supervision then the little boy could really have got hurt, and that may be why his father is angry.
On the other hand, if the neighbour's boy is old enough to know better, then he's an insufferable, awful little brat and his parents ought to be ashamed that he thinks it's okay to trash other peoples' gardens. In that case, you did nothing bad at all by asking him to go home, and his parents have no reason to criticise you.
I'm still a bit concerned about the puppy though. You should always supervise children - even older children - around animals. Kids want to experiment with everything, and sooner or later they'll do something to the puppy that will annoy it or threaten it, and then it will bite. I'm more worried about the puppy, to be honest. Children might bleed, but they heal. However, if your neighbours make a fuss about the puppy biting their brat then you might have to get rid of it, or even have it put to sleep. Don't let that happen.
2006-11-17 00:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Chasiufan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there doesnt seem to be enough supervision going on for the kid to be so destructive. The kid's father shouldnt allow his son to your house but apparently he wants him there for whatever reason. Tell your folks to tell this adult neighbor that the kid isnt being 'babysat' at your house...that there's no supervision enough to suit him or the child. Best to be cordial neighbors only...wave hi and goodbye. Peace.
2006-11-17 00:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, your neighbors are just ignorant... but you could have responded differently, the little kid only know basic ways to react if he's bit and such.. So can't really get too mad at kids, its a learning experience for them... but his father is pretty clearly in the wrong, because it makes perfect sense why you asked his son to leave... I you would have done anything differently, I would've suggested you sit and talk to the child, asking him about why he did that...
2006-11-17 00:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're asking if you were wrong in sending your neighbour's kid home because he did damage to your home? No... you were not wrong. The kid is disrespectful and the father sounds like he flew off the handle without knowing the whole story. I wouldn't allow that child onto my property again until he apologized. Sounds like he hasn't quite learned how to play nicely or how to be respectful (I can see why, with how the father reacted).
2006-11-17 00:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by deepvioletfire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kid and his father are both jerks. No reason you should put up with it. Just tell him he's not allowed over anymore and no matter what don't let your son over there.
The kid will end up in jail someday and the father will just go around saying it's everyone else's fault.
2006-11-17 01:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore your stupid neighbor, some people just need to get mad because they are insecure and its the only thing they know how to do because they have done it all their life, had they been a marijuana user, angry-ness would not be a factor of a true stoner.
2006-11-17 01:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by pimpdadymack2534 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong if anything like that happens again and his dad comes over tell him straight up Hey if you taught your son not to destroy other pepoles things I wouldn't have to tell him to leave and if I was my dog and that boy was poking at me I would have bitten him too!
2006-11-17 02:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you put up with more than most people would, you are not obligated to have the child at your home, send him back to his parents and let them deal with him. its obvious that that this is a learned behavior, his parents are angry and refuse to admit any responsibility on the childs part, they allow this to continue so you have to put your foot down before he tears your house down :-) good luck
2006-11-17 00:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by ncmedicgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. The child probably should not come over, unless his parents are going to sit with him. You are not responsible for their child That should shut those parents the hell up. Alot of parents like to yell at people, just because they can. They need to treat you with more respect, since your relieving them of having to watch their child.
2006-11-17 01:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by oh really 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should explane to the father what his son was doing, and maybe not let them hang out for a few weeks. parents can be really protective of their kids. good luck
2006-11-17 01:11:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋