It has always bothered me. To this day I cannot understand why anyone would want to watch other people, when you could just wait for your partner and do it yourself. HELP!!! I need advice.
2006-11-16 16:36:26 · 32 answers · asked by Audee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sort of. Basically, he shouldn't do it near or in front of you. He shouldn't have even let you know he does it. It's one of those gross things that guys do that we have to deal with, but really would prefer not to know about. Let him know that what you don't know won't hurt you, but that he really needs to keep the porn away from you and out of your relationship! good luck.
2006-11-16 16:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by el nombre 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you don't feel comfortable watching pornography, don't watch it. But you can't control what he does. If it makes you intensely uncomfortable, you have to make a decision if it's something you can live with or not.
Have you tried finding types of more soft pornography that you might feel comfortable watching? He might enjoy watching it with you, and that might really help ease the tension of the situation.
Pornography isn't all dirtiness and objectifying. Some of it can truly be used as a sexual aide in a relationship. Consider opening your mind to it. Otherwise, be prepared for him to tell you that he won't change what he enjoys doing.
And by the way . . . not just men enjoy porn.
2006-11-16 16:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO!! do not listen to any single guy on this because they are lonely people that have nothing better to do then watch porn. If your man is satisfied with you sexually then there is no reason he needs to be watching some cheap *** insecure chick get exploited by letting hella nasty old hairy guys do her in the butt for money. They are insecure whores that are generally alcoholics and drug addicts. I'm sorry I refuse to except the, "we need to be visually stimulated" bullshit. We " the girlfriend" can visually stimulate you and if you can't wait then your telling us that we're not worth waiting for. To me personally it is a form of cheating. If you are no longer attracted to your girlfriend and need porn to get you off then just do her the favor and break up with her and stop wasting her time. She can find a man that will be well satisfied sexually and emotionally that he doesn't need to resort to porn to, "get him in the mood. That is a flipp'n insult to any girl you tell that to. F-him, turn it around on him honey, start letting him catch you looking at naked guys on the Internet and pretend like you really just got caught doing something you weren't suppost to be doing. If he reacts like he is hurt then inform him that now he knows how it feels. It might take you a couple of times of hurting him like that before he gets it. But If he doesn't react then dump his loser *** because if he isn't happy enough with you and obviously not being turned on by you. He is just a sleez bag that no matter what! he'll be looking the other way. Your better than that, get a better man. Get a real man honey.
2006-11-16 17:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by rashfrmhell 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something i can't deal with either. Studies have shown that watching porn, makes it harder for a couple to enjoy eachother in reality, because it is so rigged with fakeness, or humiliation or harm, and eventually the person addicted to it becomes desensitzed to whats really real. personally, i broke up with a guy after 7 years. he had this habit, and till this day, he is alone, and still hords it in his house. no oe can live up to his reality of play boy beauties, but i found that after i left, there are plenty of men that will love me, with out breast implants. I'm just waiting for the right one now. good luck. P.S. I also found that he is more into himself, so i always wondered if he was privately gay.
2006-11-16 16:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by chara 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don`t take it personally. This is a very normal thing for guys to do. Your boyfriend should be respectful about watching porn in front of you or leaving porn around the house but you should know must men enjoy looking at porn. It is just one of the ways men are different from woman.
2006-11-16 16:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Trip 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh, no, you do not HAVE to deal with it. You have choice in this, are you going to tolerate it or not? Is this someone you would consider marrying? Do not buy into people telling you this is harmless and "all" men do it. That is a lie. It is interesting to note that most women who are involved in pornography, are strippers, etc are victims of childhood sexual abuse. And virtually all sex offenders are into pornography. This is not harmless and it is a grotesquely twisted take on sex.
But again, you decide whether you will settle for this in your relationship.
2006-11-16 16:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by pinkee 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you dont like it, you will have to weigh the good vs. the bad. are you mostly happy with the relationship? if so let it go, if it's more bad than good, you should free both of you from it. If you feel you have to change someone who doesnt want to change, it will never get better. He will just feel resentful. If he wanted to stop for you, He would have.
2006-11-16 16:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are communicating with strangers to fill a need and your boyfriend is watching strangers to fill his need what is the problem?
Or you can sit down and join him, then he can communicate with you !!!
Then again if that does not work let him do the anal thing and you learn to swallow and he'll turn off the porn.
Ok, ok, give me all your thumbs down if that will make you feel better !!!!!!!!!
2006-11-16 16:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a voyeur. To be a voyeur is to enjoy watching the act of sex. Even though you can have sex....he gets turned on by watching it. Making love to you I'm sure is fantastic, but you don't quite get the same view. Why don't you suggest that you video tape your sessions. Then he will watch just the two of you and can have his voyeuristic needs taken care of as well. Think about that and other solutions.....you'll get the benefit of his watching porn anyway...he gets horny...then cums for you! lol
2006-11-16 16:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't personally think it is a big deal, but you don't have to put up with him doing it in front of you. Just ask him to watch it privately and to keep the "evidence" out of your sight. If he can't--or won't--fo that then he has a problem.
Maybe consider watching it with him--not necessarily something that offends you, ask him to find something he thinks you might like and then sit through it with him just once. You never know, you might like it... and if not, it won't kill you to sit with him and maybe find out what he's getting out of it with an open mind.
Good luck!
2006-11-16 16:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Erika S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You dont have to deal with anything you dont want to. You have the freedom to leave the situation. If you have talked to your boyfriend and he cannot respect you, then maybe you need to find somebody who will.
2006-11-16 16:43:07 · answer #11 · answered by rufi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋