well, I think everyone is definitely entitled to their own opinion, but let me ask you all this: Say you have been dating someone for a long, long time, know all about them, and think they are your perfect match, your soul mate. I'm talking, that one person that is perfect for you in any and every way and you know you could never live without. Then, the first and only time you have sex is a horrible experience for one/both of you and you decide that because of that one time, the future between the two of you is doomed.....? To me, that sounds like a really stupid reason to not want to marry someone...if you really loved them, you would be able to "work" on it and look past it. Of course it would be diffcult to be with someone that cant please you the way you want them to, but with time and a continued strong relationship, it will happen.
I, personally, am saving myself for marriage for both personal and religious reasons. I'm not going to lie and say that it has been easy to remain a virgin, but I know that by doing so, I am saving a wonderful experience for my husband and I to share, as well as avoiding a number of problems that can come along with premarital sex.
2006-11-16 16:51:53
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answered by CTJT4me 2
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Yes, I believe in saving your body for the one you marry.
My reasons: Sex outside of marriage can be devastating physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It turns you from a moral person to an immoral person if you believe in God. There has been a steady increase in children born out of wedlock, sexually transmitted diseases, addiction to pornography, and sexual abuse. Younger and younger children are exposed to and involved in immoral activities. Nearly two-thirds of high school students have engaged in premarital sex, and about 20 percent of young teens have experienced sexual intercourse by age 15.
Becoming sexually involved with someone you are not married to is risky because there is no commitment, no promise, no real reason to stay together if you're both free to leave at any time. It also causes increased jealousy and possessiveness. Once you split up, you will compare your next sexual partner to the last one, and you may either not be as satisfied, or you will be more satisfied and think that every time you switch, the next one may be an improvement, so you hop from new partner to new partner.
Engaging in sex before marriage can be addictive and you end up spending your time doing that instead of talking or enjoying nature or doing other activities together. Some couples only want to be together because they expect the sex, and then they run out of other things to do, so they're stuck in a one track relationship.
Also, there are others to think about. Will you parents be supportive if they know you're giving up your chastity? Or that you are pregnant? Or that you are having an abortion? Or that you suddenly have a sexual disease?
If you want a relationship on a higher level, save yourself for the man who loves you enough to marry you, promises himself to you, is committed to the relationship, and honors you and your body enough not to take advantage of you before those steps are taken.
Most people today have sex before marriage. Why not be different and unique and safe, and choose the higher road?
2006-11-16 16:25:41
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answered by Rainfog 5
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Sure do not. In fact I do not believe in marriage at all.
I sure would not want to live with the same woman for all my adult life. I firmly believe in changing partners from time to time.
Sex is a natural happening between male and female so why not enjoy it at any time.
Also if you do like the idea of marriage then I do believe a person should experience many things before deciding to make the commitment. This means sex as well as many other things.
2006-11-16 16:25:02
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answered by Anonymous
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i think it is a ridiculous notion and a reason why so many people get married too young and there is such a high rate of divorce. before you get married, you and your partner need to make sure you are compatible on every level. what happens if you get married and the sex sucks. the marriage wont last. however the sex might be good, but if both partners were virgins before hand, the curiosity of what it would be like with someone else would take hold and cause infidelity. thats my opinion though. good question
2006-11-16 16:27:04
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answered by marcvialli 5
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No I don't!!!! I don't believe there is anything magical about virginity, so why save it? I believe you need to know EVERYTHING about a person before marriage - that includes sex. I also believe that most people - women and men - need to sow their wild oats a little before they settle down, in order to have peace of mind about committing to having sex with one person for the rest of their lives. I always used to be restless in relationships - wondering what else was out there, what I was missing, etc. Then I had 3 years of singleness from 22-25. The experiences I had then have led me to be completely comfortable in a monogamous relationship - no wondering what else is out there, no tempting moments with a hot guy at a club. There's no substitute for experience.
Of course I do believe in moderation - but I think everyone is entitled to a little experimentation. A LITTLE.
2006-11-16 16:15:05
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answered by Anonymous
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We all want to give in to our passions, but God says sex is for marriage.............
We are Not to be promiscious.......making illegitimate children with no fathers or getting STD's.
HE doesn't say it's OK if you use Condoms you will be forgiven. Sex before marriage is called Fornication............look it up in the index of the Bible . God made sex...........but for marriage. HE knows what is best.
Condoms are Not full proof anyway.
Watch Maury............see what happens to all the couples that thought it was fine at the time. Now they are hurt and the children are hurt. They don't always talk about disease, but most likely they have it also.
We will All face God ..........He is very forgiving, but He is also a Righteous Judge also. His Son gave his life and hope of Eternal life for us.............the least we can do is Obey.
2006-11-16 16:24:05
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answered by 4263 4
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No I don't . And your really screwed literally that is hehe later when you find out he's a dead beat in the sake then what. best to find out while your with him before marriage. Don't get me wrong you need more than sex in a marriage but it sure does help its going to be a long life you hope and you don't want to be crawling up the wall.
Also when you love someoen its a wonderful way to show them your love its like two bodies connecting in a very special way and its a very special bond and feeling you two share. But only do this when your ready, if he doesn't want to wait he wasn't worth it.
2006-11-16 17:38:31
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answered by For ever in my Heart 7
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i trust that sexual kinfolk individuals must be held between guy and woman committed to at least one yet another in marriage - yet to reduce it to easily those few days a month the position the female is up for idea is ridiculous. sex is a healthful and necessary area of marriage for both husband and spouse. As a fellow Christian, i desire to sometime understand the completed of the bible yet one ingredient I understand is that the atonement of Jesus Christ facilitates all to be forgiven. sex formerly marriage protected. evaluate the prostitute even as presented formerly the Savior having been stuck contained in the act. The Savior's reply? Did He say that she'd be burned in Hell? He reported, "enable he who's without sin solid the first stone." Our us of a could by no potential implement something as ridiculous as your thoughts. you want those beliefs enforced, flow to China. the following we are a loose democracy and individuals have the right to settle on on. purely as you've a good to assert sinners will "burn an eternity in Hell" - people have a good to have sex in the journey that they so favor.
2016-11-29 05:21:18
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answered by ? 4
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To be perfectly honest, I doubt that you will find many married couples today that have not engaged in premarital sex. I like to "sample the merchandise before I buy it" but if a couple wishes to remain celibate until marriage, it is their choice in doing so. I'm not a religious person and have no objections to premaital sex, but if a couple has been dating a long time or is engaged to be married, it is not unusual for them to be sexually active with one another, so long as they are faithful and not cheating. Sexual intercourse is a natural function and should not have any religious conditions placed upon it. If a couple wishes to engage in it, it should be their choice, whether or not they are married. The whole "no sex before marriage" thing is overrated and is a laughable thing at this day and age.
2006-11-16 16:18:00
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm somewhat divided on that issue. Morally, it's not proper, but on the other hand, how would a couple know if they're sexually compatible unless they try it out? I'm talking about an engaged or committed couple, not a casual date. I don't believe in promiscuity. But once you're married and there's no chemistry, it's too late. You don't buy an outfit until you've tried it on to make sure it fits. Do you get my drift?
2006-11-16 16:17:10
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answered by gldjns 7
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