Do I give in and date this guy?

Question

I recently got back in touch with somebody I used to go to high school with. He's two years younger than I am but he's actually grown up a lot these past few years because he has a son and the major responsibilities that go along with being a dad -- I'm REALLY feeling him -- but I feel like I could be down-grading because he's younger -- and not as established as I'd like the men I date to be...WHAT DO I DO?!?!
REAL ANSWERS PLEASE! NO TIME FOR GAMES!

Answer 1

My advice to you, age ain't nothin' but a number. I'd say go for it if you're feeling him like that. But, (yes there is a but) Test your waters before you jump in because you don't want to regret making a bad decision. Weigh out the pros and the cons. He's grown up but is he grown up enough to know how to make it in the real world without having to depend on anybody for help. It's a MAN's natural instinct to survive on his own and provide for his family. Another thing, you don't want to be with anybody who has less than what you have unless they're trying to better themselves and you're seeing it with YOUR OWN EYES. If he's not trying to better himself for the sake of his child and his life period, then I'd say you know him on the streets, and that's where you should keep him until he can get himself together financially. Because when you take in somebody who has less than what you have, sometimes they take advantage of your kindness and become a parasite, living off the money you work hard for.Besides, babies are already a huge expense, let alone a grown man. Be Careful and good luck.

Answer 2

Your ideas are all wrong I know your thinking of yourself and your future and society and wanting to climb higher in life. But what your missing here could be a really good man kind loving , and so what maybe he hasn't made it big YET.. or maybe never will but your not interested in just the $$ signes you see this man could bring you do you>? if you do it will never be for the right reasons for this young man he too deserves a woman who loves him for him not his bank account. If he makes it big then great thats the icing on the cake and you all live much better but please don't play with peoples hearts in that manner this is serious stuff .

Best advise if your not sure I would let him be just by your question you posed here I'd be lerely of you . I think your intentions are not right and for all the wrong reasons. You keep looking for your high society guy and leave this man with his son to find a good woman who will first look at who he is as a person inside. men are capable of great things in life.

Also there are men that are established and are well off and are complete jack asses . So money can't buy you class my dear and love and sincerity that comes from with in

Answer 3

First off it is sad to see that you judge people on what they have and not who they are. Maybe the fact that he is being a responsible father and providing for his son is the reason he is not as established to your standards. However if you like him go for it what is the big deal with being 2 years younger. That is of course if you can get over the fact that he's not up to your usual standards otherwise it would never work. GL

Answer 4

You want to so do it. How are you downgrading? You said he's mature, you feel his son is a bonus point - which automatically gives you a good vibe in the whole thing here. Stop sitting on the high horse fence and see where it goes. Downgrading is only material here right? :)

Have fun, be good to his son and don't think too hard about it. Obviously what you have done in the past with the so called established guys hasn't worked right??

Answer 5

All I know is that age is not a a good determining factor. The rest is all you. Do what is important to you. If you want to go and give it a shot then why not. As for him being established...well that is a tough call because that is a preference of yours but I say at least a nice dinner won't hurt. good luck.

Answer 6

Two years is nothing... I'm for years younger than my wife. As for him being responsible, this is a big plus. But walk in with your eyes open if you are starting a relationship with someone who has a child. This complicates a relationship.

Answer 7

downgrading? what, are you a snob?

People on here are always complaining about both sides of the extremes: men say women only gold dig and chase the guys with sports cars and boats, women say the rich guys always date the rich girls...

If you like this guy, and if he seems decent to you, then date him. If you saw a really nice top on sale, wouldn't you buy it? Would you care that it was half off?

Answer 8

well age gap is really not a problem because it doesnt really matter..
as you have said he shoulders major responsibilities so we can assume that he's mature enough and is very reponsible...

about the "not as established as I'd like the men I date to be..".. i suggest you lower your qualifications for a man you want to date with..

oops.. i forgot he's a dad?? how about his wife?

Answer 9

ONLY YOU KNOW THAT ANSWER IT REALLY SOUND LIKE
YOU LOOKING FOR SOMEONE THAT WILL GIVE YOU
THE FINER THINGS IN LIFE. THAT OK, BUT IF HE NOT
'WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR, THEN LEAVE IT ALONG
THE AGE DIFFENT IS NOT THE ISSUES, BECAUSE IF
YOU CONTINE TO SEE THIS GUY YOU WILL START
SOMTHING THAT MAY BE NOT WHAT IN THE PLAN
AND HE HAS A SON. SO JUST BE CAREFUL ABOUT
THIS THERE ARE OTHER THAT WILL BE AFFECTED
BY THIS.

Answer 10

unless he's married i think you should date him...it's a two years difference not 10 years so age is not the issue here...good luck.