All mothers!?

Question

What did you want most from your doctors and nurses during your pregnancy and birth experience?

Answer 1

My mom said she wanted normal food!!! Lol, hope that helped. Also, some secret potion to keep the baby from crying so much after birth!!!

Answer 2

i had a home birth with my first, so i got whatever i wanted since i was in charge. knowing this, my ob (with my second child) was willing to give me whatevere i wanted to make sure i had my second in the hospital instead of at home like the first. i don't need much during pregnancy, so i haven't asked for much. jsut to keep an eye on things. i'm more of a "birth is a bonding experience for a famly" type person. my mom had home births with the first 5 of us. #6 was in the hospital because mom was 42 and had high blood pressure and went into labor while being treated for that. they were going to send her home because she was experienced, but she asked to stay because she didn't know if the hbp was under control. she had a good experience in a hospital too. i've heard so many horror stories from my friends about hospital births because nothing went like they wanted, even with no complications, and that's why my first baby was born at home. i think if a woman knows (or at least stays involved and is willing to learn everything she can) about her prgnancy and what's going on, usually she can get her own way with things. my mom and i did. i hope we aren't rarities.

Answer 3

What I wanted more then anything during my pregnancy was honesty from the doctors and nurses. There is allot of stuff they do not tell you because they are afraid it will scare people. There is also stuff they do not tell you about because it gross. In my opinion though that is the stuff you need to know more then anything. During my labor what I wanted more then anything was lots and lots of pain killers. My Daughters head was stuck on my pelvis and I had to have an emergency C-section.

Answer 4

The most thing I wanted every visit was to hear the baby's heartbeat and wanted to see as many sonograms as possible so I would know all was okay. There are so many things that can go wrong that I just wanted reassurance. Birth experience was a C-Section but it went so quick, there's not much I would have wanted differently.

Answer 5

For me I had so much information about being pregnant and the birth. I was very focused on this event.
My labor was hardly noticeable.I kept waiting for pain and I never had any. I was uncomfortable, but not in any pain. When I realized that I was indeed in labor and got to the hospital, my son was born with 25 minutes. Phew!
I did have post natal blues pretty bad for several weeks after his birth.
You are in for an amazing time of your life, congrats! You will be fine.

Answer 6

HONESTY and OPEN COMMUNICATION! I got tired of feeling like I was being lied to or getting half answers. They treat you like you are stupid and have no decision making power. I was constantly amazed about how people would come in and try to change stuff out on the IV bag, but would not tell me what they thought they were about to put into my body. HELLO! You ask permission before you touch someone or do anything. If someone says no to something that means no, it does not mean come back and ask me in an hour, it does not mean do it anyway when you think I am not paying attention. I wanted open honest communication and respect.

Answer 7

Honesty.

I had preeclampsia and was scared to death with all the testing. I asked them to lay everything out for me, and they did. I don't like being given the run around. If something goes wrong, I want to know. I don't want to be lied to. If something is wrong, tell me!

Also, they were prepared for anything. They made it easy on me and were easy to talk to.

Make sure that anesthesia is going to be covered by your insurance, even if you don't plan on having an epidural. After 24 hours of labor I had an emergency c-section, and the epidural was deemed unnecessary by my insurance. I wanted to ask them what they wanted me to do.

My clinic was great though--the nurses were great, the doctors were great, and after spending 2 weeks in the hospital, I was happy with where I went.

Answer 8

I wanted them to be straight forward and honest with me if things got complicated. Which they did. We discussed all procedures and treatments on a level that I could understand what they were talking about. So many doctors these days do ALL the deciding for you. They get the results of a test and walk in with medication to put into your IV and usually don't bother to tell you what it is or why they are giving it to you.
I'm sorry but that is not okay with me, my body, my babies!

Answer 9

Honesty and kindness. There's nothing nicer than a nurse that cares when you're in labor and not sure about anything. My doctor was kind enough to explain everything that was going to happen so I wasn't surprised or worried.

Answer 10

I expected them to take my concerns and pains seriously.

I also expected them to answer all of my questions (without rushing our discussions).

One male Dr. disappointed me greatly by not treating me in a professional manner, and since then I've only visited female physicians (& midwives) - not that this should influence your choice of professional of course - that was just my experience (I've given birth twice).

Wishing you all the best with your birth experiences (it really can be much better than anyone has described - both of mine were fantastic)!!