what do I do?

Question

Ive been with this guy for at least 19 years a couple of weeks ago he was telling me he hated me and in some other words wanted me to leave his home which we both lived in for all these years told me that I wasnt young enough and so on I moved away tried to call him email him and he has not even lifted a finger to call or email me Ive told him I Love him Ive cried do you think someone else has come into the picture im very attactive outgoing and very passionate what do you think I should do or what do you think his problem is I dont get it

Answer 1

I don't think it has anything to do with you, or someone else coming into his life, I suspect he has hit a mid life crisis, and is panicking and wanting to do something he always wanted to do and never did. If he is the open/honest type, don't you think he would have told you he found someone else?

After being together for 19 years, and if you were paying your share, it might be a matter for the courts in deciding that perhaps the home is as much yours as his. In fact, you may be able to have him move and you stay there. This may snap him back to his senses.

Contact an attorney, it will not cost anything for a consultation, and if you have a case, go for it. In all honesty to you, this is the only hope I see for you getting some sort of leverage in trying to counter his sudden decision to put you on the street, and maybe that will be your ace in the hole for getting him back.

A court may even deem it necessary to sell the home and split it 50/50, and that may even force him to get his head out of his behind.

I hope you will be ok,

Darryl S.

Answer 2

IM SORRY TO SAY BUT IF YOU HAVE BEEN WITH THIS GUY
FOR 19 YEARS. AND HE TELLING YOU THAT HE HATE YOU
THERE SOMETHING SERIOUS WRONG SOMEWHERE.
BUT YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONG. SOUND LIKE YOU'
SHOULD HAVE BEEN GONE. I WOULD NOT WORRY\
ABOUY IT, TIME TO JUST LEAVE HIM ALONG, IT WILL
TAKE SOME TIME SINCE YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER
FOR SUCH A LONG TIME. BUT IT WILL GET BETTER
JUST HANG IN THERE.