plz help i have a confused relationship!?

Question

I like th is boy and he likes me and i know it. and mostly evrybody says that we are together; but we really not we are just couples who don't claim each other. and it's just he's a flirtacious guy and he likes to flirt wit other gurlz. and i tell him he need to stop or else he's gonna lose me but he says he's not doing any thing wrong. but he says he wants me and he wants me ansd only me but is his words luoder than his actions or is he lying Also (he says he is thinking about us and the only reasaon wehy he doesn't want us to be together is becasue he wants our realtionship to be a on trhe DL but mostly every body says and knows we have somethin $ each other) what should i do plz don't tell me 2 let go....

Answer 1

well, as long as he isn't abusive.....you can test him. flirt with other guys, and see how he likes it.

Answer 2

If he really cared about you there wouldn't be a problem. I'm just guessing but you sound like a teenager or a young adult. It has been my experience that most men don't grow up and become more solid(as in relationships) until they have reached maturity . . . . around 30. Unfortunately for us girls who do mature faster, this can be a real problem in matters of the heart. If you are young or even older, don't let this get you down. I am very sure that there is someone out there that will love and respect you the way you deserve, and don't settle for any less. Just remember, you are important and you deserve to be loved and respected.

Answer 3

Myisha you need to get in control of your relationship. he is jerking you around and abusing your trust and love. Life is to precious to be taken for granted. I am not saying change your relationship, but put it in another category like an acquaintance or close friend. Why would like someone who treats you like poop and doesn't have any respect for you.
A sweet thing like you can do so much better. The next time you take control of the relationship and don't give it up for no man!

Grandpa

Answer 4

so if u dont want me to tell you to let go what do i say? he's right, him flirting with girls isnt doing anything wrong, your just seeing each other, not an actual item, so he can do watever the hell he wants. but the reasoning behind it proves that your man is a trife. he may be spitting game to you on one hand, but he's probably spitting game to another girl too. and just cuz everyone says your "together" doesnt mean you are. and words NEVER speak louder then actions.

Answer 5

Sorry honey, the answer you don't want is the answer you need to hear. "But I love him" are four words women use to wreck their lives. If he isn't proud to be with you and can't devote his attention to you over other gals, he isn't really looking for the same thing you are. As a guy, I would say he is looking for "action on the side." Drop him like a hot potato.

Answer 6

I won't tell ya to let go but you will need to learn to deal with his personality. He is a flirt and he has the need to have other females in his life. He does not feel complete unless the opposite sex is clinging on his words or actions. Yes, it is a hard one to live with. I have done it myself. You need to get to a point where you don't give a damn, Otherwise, it will eat at your heart and soul. It will make you a very hard hearted person. Please don't go there.

Answer 7

Does he ever call or take you anywhere? it sounds like its all through the computer. Most girls want alot more than that. He ISNT A REAL BOYFRIEND....he may be wanting online sex soon...say are we going out?" and see what happens...hes using you I think.. do this if youre 16 or more

Answer 8

let go, cause the only reason a guy would want a relationship on the DL is if he's embarrassed by you or if he wants to see other females. trust this i come from all over TX

Answer 9

FIRST OF ALL, YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
THIS YOUNG MAN IS USING YOU, AND YOU REALLY DESERVE MORE, IF HE WANT TO FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS
THAT FIND. BUT IF YOU REALLY WANT THIS TO WORK HE
NEED TO STARTING RESPECT YOU. AND FOR THE
DL. IF HE CANT DEAL ALL THE WAY TIME TO LET HIM
GO. ALSO STOP THE ACTIONS. UNTIL HE START TO
SHOW YOU THE RESPECT YOU NEED AND DESERVE.

Answer 10

well really all i can say is to talk to him tell him how u feel maybe he will give u a chance
tell him that u need respect in the relationship too
i hope it all works out!
good luck

Answer 11

you have to let go. he wants it on the DL so that other girls will think he is single and flirt with him. i used to be this type of guy, but i hurt too many girls doing it. you have to let go.