hi iam swati i just wnt to ask tht y iam nt able to stay happy nd lossing my mental condition y it is happning

Question

iam nt able to control my mind i loose my temper i want to be with my love bt it is nt possible iam nt able to expect it i love him a lot and cnt think my life without him pls tell me what i should do he is a married nd even he loves me a lot pls help me in this

Answer 1

I can understand that what u r facing now, and it is very typical 4 you I know. But now what i am going to say is too much typical for u. The fact is that he is a married man, and u have 2 accept this typical fact of ur life.
U have no other option.
I don't know anything about u and ur boyfriend. And i can't guess that how much he is loyal about ur love. But if he is not loyal to his wife and cheating her. then how he will remain loyal to ur love in future. Think!!!!!

The another fact that, he may be want to use u for his sexual requirements. But there is lots of chances. And its a fact.

Well dont think just about ur self. Think about ur family. Think about ur boyfriend's family. Think what happens when u take a wrong decision.

Just concentrate on ur future and carrier. What u have to do next.

Don't listen romantic and sad songs, and try 2 listen spritual songs if u have faith in God.

Well if u want 2 really overcome from this problem and want 2 concentrate then I have some tips which I can't disclose here. U may contact me at [e-mail]
I am not giving answers for 2 points, i really want to help peoples.

Bye

Answer 2

happiness, sorrow, angry all are emotions that comes from the mind. mind is a big repository that is having so many by-lanes. first of all identify the problem that worries u so much. think of the causes. some causes are of u r own i mean u r perceiption. perceiption means the way u look at the things. some circumstances are not in u r hands. first of all woman or man-mind is=emotion. one has to have control over events. no body has the right to hurt other feelings. and at the same time it is not good to think that every body has to accept u r version. don't think trival matters and try to concentrate on studies if u area student. try to read good books that expands ur thoughts and u will be in a position to think and judge what is good or bad. above all if u are angry on any body wipe out his thoughts from u r brain it means don't give importance to unnecessary things,events. u r the architect of u r destiny. in this small and beautiful life why shoulnot try to be happy as far as possible.attachment with married people is not good. think of his family members also. if u are in their position what u will do. u have no right to spoil the happiness of others because others are equally important as if u are. it appears that urs is a self created problem. try to hear u r parents and get married another person. i can't live without a married person is a bad proposition. have u ever asked whether he ignores his children family. indian society is still strong because of healthy family ties. take a wise decision andbe happy. after some time or after some years u will think how u r decisions are immature. good luck and be happy.

Answer 3

Its nothing to do with your temper. Temper tends to rise and mellow down in normal people according to the conditions and you are of course, stressed. It is the time to take a decision, however heartbreaking it is. Either your lover has to take a divorce from his wife and marry you or you have to leave him. Its a deadlock situation but you have only two choices. You cannot go on living like this and suffer because you love someone. If possible, move away from the city and go to a trained counselor and psychiatrist. They are not only there to listen to your problems, they have some anti-depressants and tips to unleash hormones that will make you feel happier and face your life in a more balanced manner. Over the counter anti-depressants can have detrimental side effects while psychiatrists can monitor the doses to suit your mental and physical condition. They really help. I am speaking from my own experience. Love feels to overwhelm us but when you will come out of this situation what a mountain load you were carrying and how light you will feel after throwing back the burden. Everyone's first love should one's own happiness and state of mind. Stay devoted to it and make best use of your Life.

Answer 4

Hi swati though i am no one to advise you on what you should be doing but least i can do is suggest you what i believe is right ,
lets see u r in love with a married man and so is he with u but if u see that u cant live without him but have u thought that by taking this relationship further will u be doing good for both of you , i don't think so we Indian in society live by certain codes and some of them are extreme taboos like for example an extra marital affair so what will u be doing by escalating this matter will be ruining someones married life and along with his life u will be affecting all those related to him most prominently his wife and their families your action can cost agony to lot of people and can have cascading effect and as far as your temper is concerned i believe u can divert your mind by indulging in some creative activities that u must be having and surly u can find some time out to discover them. i hope my advice will help you take care good bye.

Answer 5

Swati,
You are mentally sound that is the reason you have asked this question. Hope you are a whole person with out any handicap.
Thank god for that and think of those people you have come accross in your day to day life. Swami Vivekananda rightly said "Love is like hand full water, it remain in your hand as long you hold but if you try to possess by clenching your fist it will leave." your problem is self inflicted mental handicap. pls come out of it.

Answer 6

You need friends, good friends, dear Swati! You must talk to your near and dear ones, friends or close relatives, mature people, and, discuss your condition with the chosen few: and, read some good books, listen to good music! very soon, you will find the answers yourself. maybe, you'll find some very good friends in the internet, in the e-mail circuit!

Answer 7

He has a woman buddy, and he's an "ex" for a reason. that's none of your organization, stay out of it. pass away it and him on my own. you have had dissimilar stressful circumstances; jointly as you have made countless strides, you're actually not out of the woods yet. you have way too plenty occurring to complicate themes extra suitable proper by getting in touch decrease returned. the main significant proper project so which you would be waiting to do is to concentration on getting your existence on an identical time. Your ex is in a no longer worry-unfastened spot, yet you're able to be able to prefer to concentration on you and getting your act on an identical time. area of the precedence could be which you have no longer have been given any extra got here upon a thank you to be self-adequate emotionally. certainly, i ought to no longer get via using all of the emails: there is way too plenty drama. you're able to be able to prefer to place far between you and the entire project. end allowing your self to be reeled in. you're asserting you're perplexed? end cluttering up your existence. ask your self: what form of existence do i prefer to have and what do i might prefer to do to get it? dedicate to psychological stability, self-sufficiency and coaching. end surrounding your self with drama. that's that straightforward.

Answer 8

Move away at the earliest.