how to manage 2 babies 11 months apart?

Question

I am pregnant with my 2nd baby and when this baby is born they will be 11 months apart. Is there anyone out there who has babies this age apart and do you have any advice on how to manage? I'm really worried about how I will manage.

Answer 1

Very carefully! j/k
Just like being a first time mother, it will take time to adapt. The good thing is that as they get a bit older they will be great playmates and entertain each other. If you can get through the first 8-10 months the rest will be a breeze.

Bless your heart and CONGRATULATIONS!

Answer 2

I am currently pregnant with my second child, and I have an 18 month old son. I was worried too, and I still am at times. However, the past few weeks my son has really become...well, a little more independent. We're still going to have 2 in diapers, and my son loves all of my attention. But, I have been giving him more freedom and he seems to be enjoying it.

I guess what I am trying to say is that no matter what obstacles are thrown in our way, us mothers can figure them out. I know my mom had 4 kids in 5 years; the first three all 11-12 months apart. I know if she got through it, I can too. And if I can get through it, so can you! Granted my little ones will be a little bit farther apart in age than yours, but I know it can be done, and you'll do the best that you can do!! I don't think the worry will go away until your next little one comes along, and you and your family get into a groove. Good luck to you and your babies!

Answer 3

Me too! When is your second baby due? I am due in June. Have to say I am also worried about how I will manage two babies and a full time job as an attorney. I know you can survive though as my sister and I are only 11 months apart and it was great fun growing up with a sibling that close.....just think the first couple of years are going to be tough but lots of fun.

Answer 4

I find that the best way to manage 2 babies, is to make comprimising schedules for both of them. What I mean by this is you could attempt to feed them at the first time and prepare similar things for each baby at the same time. Obviously your new baby won't be as systematic as your 11 month old will be by now, so allow flexibility in the schedules. Considering your first baby is almost a year old, she/he should be just a smudge bit more independent as your new baby. So whenever you can spare a minute you can tend to the new baby, if he/she needs it. As well, there is going to be a lot of on and off sleeping, so you can hopefully mangae your time during those periods. But it's best to remember that all babies are different. As long as you are using your heart to guide you, you should be fine.

Answer 5

My husbands cousin who is also our nieghboor just gave birth to her 2nd baby last month, her 2 are 10 months apart (yup, they could not wait) She has to do alot of jugiling, like her 1st baby was always heald, this baby is in the swing & bouncer more it is a trade off, hopefully your oldest will be walking by then, her oldest dtill is not & her back is in pain carring 1 child almost all day is HARD work. Good Luck, it is alot of work but even more fun

Answer 6

i agree with darlene. you just do what you do....and keep being a mom. in time--you eventually learn how to plan better, be organized...cause you have no choice. i have 3 kids, my first two are 17 months apart, and my second two are 19 months apart. not quite the spread as others, but still 3 babies in 3 yrs. 3 in diapers at one point. there is mayhem at times...but it's not as crazy and bad as you think. there are lots of good times, and you learn to be VERY patient. advice--don't try to rush your first baby along, let him or her be a baby for as long as he or she needs to be. get the double stroller. get a second crib. whatever it takes. also, when nursing or feeding the youngest, put the oldest in the seat with activities, toys, snacks---like booster, exersaucer...etc. babies sleep a lot, so you will have plenty of time for your 11 month old for those first couple months. btw, our parents generation had kids this close in age all the time.

Answer 7

I am also pregnant with my second child which will make my children 15 months apart. I know it now feels overwhelming that I'm approaching my deliver date and I worry all the time about how I am going to take care of two. We will and we can!! We just have to stay calm and positive. You know how fast your 11 month grew up, well this one will also. We just need to cherish the time with both and try to divide that time equally. Plus set time for ourselves and spouses. It can be done!! Good-luck and remember your not alone!!

Answer 8

I have 2 that is 12 months apart and 2 that are 13 months apart.You just be a mom and do what you have to do to take care of both of them.

Answer 9

My kids are all really close in age...my closest are 364 days apart. I have 6 kids that are 6 and under(and one 10 yr old) Its hard..but you deal. ONe thing about them being so close(mine anyway) is that I didnt have the jealousy issue. They are actually very close...almost like twins. They have their own language, and look out for each other. Its not always easy. Having more than one(or 2) in diapers really stinks(literally), and you are always tired...but Honestly...it was easier when they were born closer together.

Answer 10

My daughters are 15 months apart and I will have to say from the mans point of view. It is very tough, but look at the bright side, now they are teenagers and I get good exercise chasing the boys off.