I'm talking bridesmaids and the maid of honor ... I know who I want to ask, but I'm not getting married until 06/28/08 ... I feel like it might be nice to get them gifts this Christmas that have to do with it and ask them at the same time, but is this too far in advance? Should I wait until Spring or Summer (2007)??
I'm not really worried about having a "falling out" with them (I'm only picking 1 maid of honor and 2 bridesmaids, as well) ... I just wonder if it would be weird.
2006-11-16 15:15:31 · 13 answers · asked by jnsparrow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are excited to get married no doubt. Every one is. The wedding party also gets excited. But have you ever thought that maybe letting them know this early, might make them too excited, that when it is time to be in your wedding, it may not be as exciting? The anticipation can be so much, that later it can go down.
You want them to be happy and joyful for you, and you want to be pumped up for the work ahead. Just think about waiting until the summer, like you said. I think that might be good for them. But what ever you decide to do, I'm sure it will be a great day for you, and your spouse to be.
2006-11-16 15:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give them Christmas gifts.
And when you ask the girls to be in your wedding, have a general idea of what the costs will be for them to be in your wedding. Financially, some of them may not be able to afford what you choose even though they would love to be in your wedding. And it's embarrassing to them to accept the honor only to find out they can't afford the expense. So be fair with the girls, unless you're picking up the tab for them.
And yes, it's a bit too early. I'd wait til this summer to ask.
2006-11-16 15:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little too early. I wasn't planning on kicking my maid of honor out of my wedding two months before the big day, but...things happen. So, I would wait till it gets a little bit closer.
2006-11-16 15:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are PART of your wedding, include them way ahead of time so they actually feel a part of it, and not a last-minute guest. Also, If they have to make or buy a dress, give them plenty of notice so they can save up. Don't give them Christmas gifts that have to do with your wedding - that is kinda selfish. Give them special gifts AFTER the wedding, along with your thanks for their participation on your special day.
2006-11-16 15:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no asking a year ahead is good, you are giving everyone enough time to make plans for the future. You never know when some one is going to plan a vacation and not be avaliable the sooner the better!!!!!
2006-11-16 16:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by melissa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My soon to be sister in law has already usked my husband and I to be in her wedding and she's getting married November 2008. I think it is never too early if the engagement.
2006-11-16 16:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird to tell them way in advance since they seem to be really close friends of yours. My best friend asked me two years early and I thought it was sweet. Congratulations!
2006-11-16 15:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a great idea and since it is so far in advance just remember that life happens and that they may change a bit (get married, get pregnant ... or move) ... so i would ask them and just remember to keep an open mind to change. congrats!!
2006-11-16 15:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About three months before
2006-11-16 16:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋