Im 20 years old and the youngest of 4. im originally from louisiana but i moved out of state to california 2 years ago and now im back to visit for the holidays. well to start off, my sister thats 2 years older than me got a 500 dollar sleigh bed for her birthday, since i was outta state, she ordered me a cake over the phone for me to pick up, nothing wrong with that, (material things really dont matter) well for christmas, my sister got a laptop, new camera, new phone, new tv, things like that,.....me? i got a mp3 player, again i live outta state, well since im here, my other sister started talking about everything that everyone got, and i was like wow must be nice (being sarcastic) and my mom said well if you were here for your birthday and christmas you would get nice things to? what the hell is this? nothing else matters to me, i dont care who gets what or how much money or how nice. its the fact that my mom made that comment. it really hurt, am i just being selfish tho??
2006-11-16 15:13:09 · 8 answers · asked by scion_xb_girly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom has already made it clear she didnt want me to move away, but yes i could have made those decisions on my own, my mom is the type that wants all her kids to live at home, and im actually the only one who doesnt. my sister was gone for a while but she moved back in with her 2 kids. they dont do anymore for them than clean the house or something cuz they stay here, but my mom calls me almost everyday when im away, its not like we only contact each other on holidays
2006-11-16 16:06:06 · update #1
You live out of state and you work. It's not like you can just come home for your birthday and Christmas, right? (And not just to get things from your family?!) It sounds like your mom is being this way because you live out of state. But you're old enough to make your own decisions. And if that means living in another state, that's your choice. She can send you nice things to California. So, there isn't any excuse for not giving you anything for birthdays or Christmas.
Pull your mom aside and talk to her. Let her know how you feel. That the comment she made hurt your feelings. And that you don't care about who gets what and how much money things are. You just didn't like the comment she made to you. Otherwise those hard feelings will stay in you and build up. You'll feel better talking to her before you go home after the holidays. Good luck.
2006-11-16 15:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is that your siblings who live near your parents do things for your parents and the appreciation is being shown through what your mother gave them. Talk to your mom. Let her know how hurt you are. And stay in touch with her better--how often do you communicate w/ her? Is it just at the holidays? Or do you call her weekly to stay in touch? Or e-mail her?
2006-11-16 23:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it matter where I live? Can she have a "nice" present sent to where you do live? Sometime parents say dumb things that aren't right. So, go overboard about the mp3 player a lot. Maybe your mother will get the message!
2006-11-16 23:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you know that the gifts hurt, as what does it say about you, That you are not important, that is what , as for your mothers remark , it was just plain nasty May be you should stay out of state until they can treat you as part of the family, and not some one who they have to get a gift for.
2006-11-16 23:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not right that she said that in a realy family every one should get the same amout spen on them weather they r at home or on the other side of the world. the only reason i can think of is they r trying to make you feel bad cause you like away from them and c this as a way to get you to come home. hope everything works out for you
2006-11-16 23:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being selfish. I would be hurt too. Plus why does your mom feel that you living out of state disqualifies you from gifts? It shouldnt matter that you live out of state.
2006-11-16 23:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by sweetkotncandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world girly! You want the big stuff, move closer to Mom and Dad, your an adult and the older you get the smaller your presents, when you get married they will send you crap for your house.....It's not the same when you move out.
2006-11-16 23:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by shannonscreativechaos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no just buy you some things you wanted and out put i t in there face
2006-11-16 23:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋