Would you dump your boyfriend/girlfriend of 2 years if you realized the sex doesn't satisfy you? And when I say "doesn't satisfy you", I mean that is the most boring, least exciting thing you've ever done in your entire life. He does make me ***, but I can do that too (and maybe have more fun at it).
2006-11-16 15:10:36 · 47 answers · asked by mackenzie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Condiering the rest of the relationship was perfectly ok.
2006-11-16 15:11:08 · update #1
The thing is it's always the same thing!!! I'm the only one bringing something new once in a while and I'm fed up... he could do everything the same way until he dies!
He has no iniciative whatsoever and he doesn't even try to improve, bring new things into the bedroom... I mean he's the older one, he's the man, he should AT LEAST know what he's doing!
2006-11-16 15:23:13 · update #2
why do you all keep saying I have to be the one to make it exciting?!?!? I'm tired of being the one that has to make it exciting for ME, because he's perfectly fine by it. By the same old boring rutinary sex. (I had sex today, and I haven't had sex with him for 2 months... because it's boring and I reconfirmed it today).
2006-11-16 15:33:37 · update #3
From experience I married that person, I was in your shoes. We are still married and SEX does not change. Even if you are with him for 5 or 10 years I would say the same. Part your ways now and spare yourself because no matter how much you love eachother, or have fun together laugh go out etc you will never have that burning desire to f**k your man and eventually you will get frustrated and cheat Gaurenteed and that will hurt you in the long run. Understand that thats how we are created and some people dont jive sexually and if he/she doesnt say anything or feel like you then that person is probably inexperienced and doesnt know. Let him go. There are many fish in the sea. Sex should be a thrill and thats what keeps us women young.
2006-11-16 15:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by LiLi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would try to talk to him openly and honestly about the problem. Do it in such a way that doesn't embarass him. Instead of telling him "I don't like it when you..." try "I think it would be really hot if you...." You'll have to be really verbal with him about what you want. If he's not getting it, move his hands where you want them to be, put him in the position you want him to be in, tell him what to do. It does get boring having the same sex after a while, so you have to take control to spice things up. Go visit your local sex shop and buy some products to make things more interesting. If you're too shy to go there, visit mydearlady.com they have tons of stuff at really cheap prices. It won't improve unless you take steps to improve it. He probably thinks it's fine. Or he may be too shy to bring it up also. So you do it. The reason we keep saying for you to make the change is because you're the one who's bored with it..not him. It would be ideal if we could rely on the men to do those things, but life has taught us that we can't. So if you really are interested in change, you'll have to be the one to speak up. Have you come right out and told him that he needs to do something more or different?
2006-11-16 15:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a very important part of any intimate relationship. If you are not having problems in other areas of you relationship but are bored with your sex life perhaps you should look at what excites you and try to incorporate those ideas into your regular play. Simple acts such as play-acting, using props, making up new rules. You definitely want to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. Perhaps he feels the same way and will contribute ideas too.
2006-11-16 15:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Twisted Chickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him u needto let him know as kindly as possible and do something about sprucing up ur love life together. See what would make the love making more fun. Try different positions, role playing, toys, whatever will make a spark. U said everything else is almost perfect so u have nothing to lose except to try different things together. If that doesn't work than he might have an underlying problem that can only use professional help. Good hunting. Be safe!!!!!!
2006-11-16 15:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself, "Is there other things in my relationship that I do find satisfying?" It's a matter of re-evaluating your relationship. Sex isn't everything...unless...you base your whole relationship around it. It's common for people to get in whirlwind relationship with great and wild satisfying sex. They soon have built their relationship on sex only, and then when you've run out of new things to do, or the other person becomes bored, what do you got left? Just take this time to re-evaluate your relationship, and if their nothing left to interest you, then it's time to cut your ties and move on. Whatever you do, don't cheat or lie to the poor guy.
2006-11-16 15:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by acme123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can the rest of the relationship be ok if the most intimate part of the WHOLE DEAL is the most boring, least exciting thing you have ever done. There are blow up dolls out there for him. Get the whole package and just see how wonderful life really is!
Best of luck I know this must be a hard decision for you... but some times it is worth the risk!
2006-11-16 15:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you do to make it more exciting? It takes two. Don't just count on him to be the sex machine that rocks your world every night in bed. If everything else is good, give him a heads up and try something new. Make a freakin effort. And then, if it aint happening, make a decision. But only after you've made an effort.
2006-11-16 15:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I think sex is a very important part of a relationship, I think there's something else going on. Maybe it's more than just the bad sex. Could it be, that you are not attracted to him anymore? You need to ask yourself what is the real problem? If it turns out to be just the sex, you need to consider moving on regardless of how you feel about him. Because if he is not satisfying your needs sexually, you will eventually start resenting him and eventually go out and find fulfillment elsewhere.
2006-11-16 17:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Itsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't everything but it is a large portion of a relationship. If you love him then why not talk to him about how to spice things up. I don't think it's worth throwing away a relationship when there are so many ways to turn your mate on. You can only change if you know there is a problem. Men don't read minds but wouldn't it be great if they did? A girl can dream.
2006-11-16 15:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and spice it up a little yourself. Maybe he's just waiting for you to take the initiative. If the rest of the relationship is okay and satisfying, it's worth a try. If it's still boring, just do it yourself after-wards when he's not looking, most women do anyway.
2006-11-16 15:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋