I think I love someone other than my boyfriend....Help me please...?

Question

Alright i'm just in junior high, i'd never make out with guys so please no gross answers. Well anyways back in late Aug. I started talking to this guy. He'd constantly ask who I liked and say things like i think we should get to know each other better and i think we started off on the wrong foot. Foolishly I believed he liked me, but at 1st i didn't like him but then i did.He'd always talk to me on aim for 2-3 hours everynight and listened and respondedly thoughtfully. He seemed like the most sincere guy. Eventually I told him I liked him and he said he might like me. But then 2 weeks later he asked out another girl. I cried over him. Then a month later we had a dance. I was the prettiest girl there and i caught the eye of my current bf. He said I was pretty and i thought it was sweet of him. A week later we were a couple. But now I can't get the other guy out of my head. He always takes my stuff, mimics me, and butts into my conversations. When I giggle at him he blushes.

My friends say he flirts and so do I...Is he flirting...What should I do??

I'm just so confused, someone with some actual advice for me please help...i'm trying so hard to forget...but i cant....

Answer 1

Listen,considering that you are only in junior high -its OK to like a guy and go out with him, have fun and not be girlfriend/boyfriend. I really can't undestand why you got so upset that he asked out another girl because he can still like you too. Like were not talking everlasting love here esp since you are justt starting out in the world of romance. Also a guy can think you'r pretty,be sweet-ask you out without having to be a involved in the couple thing. The thing about being young , esp around your age , you aare beginning to understand yourself and discover relationships but how will you know what kind of guy you hope to settle down with-maried& have a family with if you don't date different guys(Not talking sex here but)Fun,dating,discovering the different personalities, discovering your expectations the kind of principles and ideals you want to one day find iin your mate. The way this guy is acting is just the way guys his age act(girls also MATURE faster than guys)when they really like a girl. I think you should talk with your current boyfriend and tell you are way too young to be with just one person,too young to be involved in a relationship. Be casual -hang out with your friends, date different guys, have group dates----This guy that I think really likes you would not be in your mind anyway if you were serious about your Boyfriend-for I thinlk you really like him. Talk to him-go for it Be Cool

Answer 2

In my opinion he chose another girl over you. I would never play second best to anyone. Its sounds from your description that he is now flirting, but I think he is just jealous now because you got a boyfriend. Sometimes people want other people for all the wrong reasons, it seems like he wants something he cannot have. I would stay put if you like who your with currently. The other guy had a chance and chose someone over you, that's never a good thing and he may split you and your current up and then be on to the next girl. I wouldn't chance it as he sounds like a flight risk to say the least. Good luck!
-NmD!

Answer 3

Don't waste so much time on the guys. Use your HEAD, not your heart! He only noticed you because he wants sex. I have to tell you that you don't know very much about guys yet at all. You fall for their lines, you think the compliments are sweet and flattering, you get caught up in who likes you... These guys are looking for SEX. They say "sweet" things to you so that you'll THINK they are nice guys, but they want to get into your underwear. Trust me - they want sex. If you want to enjoy being a teenager, spend more time with your friends, activities and school work - and spend MUCH LESS TIME ON THE GUYS or you'll be pregnant before you even know how it got that far. Don't say it won't happen because it will if you get involved with them. They'll mess up your life.

Answer 4

You're in junior high? Oh my goodness, girl. I bet you giggle when you hear the word PENIS and VAGINA. When you talk about guys exciting a girl with climax, I bet you giggle. Hun, you have no idea what love is. You have so much more to look forward to. Your hormones are going insane. You're probably a huge drama queen who thrives on drama and gossip. Hun, don't worry about guys. You have NO idea what love is......... yet.

Answer 5

love start with hate then finish the work with a smile, you gotta let your heart decide for you, try to ask you self this question witch one like you as you and witch one like because you are just prety. but if i were you i would go with the one that be talking with me for like 2, 3 hrs on aim.
But it's your choice.

Answer 6

I WOULDNT GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY WHEN YOUR EX OR SOMEONE YOU LIKED SEE YOU MOVE ON ITS LIKE A GAME TO SEE IF THEY CAN GET YOU BACK HAVE YOU EVER HEARD YOU ALWAYS WANT WHAT YOU CANT HAVE. WELL HE SEES YOU WITH YOUR B/F AND HE PROBABLY KNOWS HE CAN HAVE YOU BACK DONT GO YOULL ONLY GET HURT AND END UP HURTING SOMEONE WHO REALLY LIKES YOU.

Answer 7

well you're not married to your boyfriend but i warn you...things could go wrong if you dump your boyfriend for this guy... he could be quite a prick if you know what i mean...but you're young and there are lots of boyfriend ahead so do what you want.

Answer 8

first before you break up with your boyfriend ask him to go out with you and if he says no stay with your boyfriend and if he says yes dump him

Answer 9

Get over yourself first.

Answer 10

what you should do is follow your heart maybe listening to it might help u make decisions and please listen to heart i bet do the right decision okay!