I have a friend who i have had feelings for ages. He has a girlfriend and i have never tried to break them up, but he does know i like him. Just recently he has started flirting with me. Alot. Its hard for me, because i like him i dont want it to stop but i really dont like the idea of us continuing on like this while he has a girlfriend. How do i explain that unless he breaks up with her we cant have a friendship like the one we are having without someone getting hurt? I dont want to just jump down his throat? how do i say this right?
2006-11-16 15:07:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him exactly what you just typed.
"Unless he breaks up with her we cant have a friendship like the one we are having without someone getting hurt."
He's being unfair to both you and his girlfriend.
2006-11-16 15:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle this is by writing him a letter, not a card, a letter. And not an email either. By sending him a letter you may express your feelings and answer some questions and set some guidelines without him flirting with you. Because you won't be there when he reads it... obviously. You must be strong in your conviction when you write this letter, no flirty remarks or writing stuff that make you seem weak. You must be forthright and almost "sterile" in the letter so he just understands and knows the guidelines. And, at the end of the letter you must write something along the lines stipulating that this is non-negotiable. And remember, if this is not done the right way down the line after he does eventually get with you ... how do you know he won't do it again? Express that he needs to gain some maturity about respect for not only friendships, but intimite relationships. email me if you need more, good luck...jack
2006-11-16 23:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of this: How would you feel if you were the girlfriend and some girl was cheating with your guy? Not only are you friends with the guy, but you're also friends with his girlfriend by right. Just tell him that you should remain friends and then try to distract yourself with another guy. And try to befriend the girlfriend so that everything is open, honest and in a circle of friendship.
Another thought: if he cheats on his current girl then he'll cheat on you too.
P.S. Finding another guy is not to spite the situation. It should be done with the heart as well as keeping you out of trouble.
2006-11-16 23:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are acting like a baby, dont say anything just react to what he is doing with you and never mind what you think you know about his other social life , if you respond in a way that he likes he just might spend more time with you and leave the other on his own. i would have sex with him to make sure the plan works
2006-11-16 23:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear he is not a right guy for u at all . if after having a G F he is flirting with u that means he is just taking benifit of both of u . so be away frm him u r a nice one u will definetelly get a nice guy .
2006-11-16 23:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by chatkara_tasty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see now first off some one seems to always get hurt in relationship when another gets involved or comes between two people, so don,t think it,s not going to happen. secondly seems to me that you need too do a little soul searching of your owne to ok. see one thing i have figured out over the years is this as humanbeing we tend to want things that belong to other folks. such as men,women,boy,s , and girls, we constantley want or think we want what seems to be a nice relationship between two other people but the funny thing is it works for them and not for us.keep looking 4 your special someone and please don,t take someone elses happiness away get your owne ok.
2006-11-16 23:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by hobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may sound cheesey but i would tell him to stop flirting wit me or any other gurl while he has a gurl frend and if hes flirtying wit u and he has a gurl frend that shows hes not very faithfull(he sounds like a player to me..but if thats the type u likewho am i to judge)
2006-11-16 23:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say "Well, don't you have a girlfriend? She probably wouldn't like you flirting with another girl." See what he says to that!
2006-11-16 23:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend, and he flirts with you? He sounds like bad news. I hate to say it, but I'd reconsider.
2006-11-16 23:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a nice person...good to see
you have to say it just the way you wrote it...when you become single come and mingle...
however...i just want you to think about this for a sec or two....he is in a relationship with another and is flirting with you....
lets say he is with you tomorrow...will he do the same? flirt with someone else while with you? think about this.
2006-11-16 23:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by sdbrian92108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋