Would you dump your boyfriend/girlfriend of 2 years if you realized the sex doesn't satisfy you? And when I say "doesn't satisfy you", I mean that is the most boring, least exciting thing you've ever done in your entire life. He does make me ***, but I can do that too (and maybe have more fun at it).
2006-11-16 15:02:27 · 16 answers · asked by mackenzie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Consider that the rest of the relationship is prefectly OK.
2006-11-16 15:03:11 · update #1
If the rest of the relationship was satisfying I would just try to work on that area. Let him know there is a problem and work on it together. Let him know what he can do to spice it up.
2006-11-16 15:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by mnorth12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sexual relationship is like a dance. You can either step on each other's toes or you can glide gracefully as if your were being guided by some force greater than both of you. It takes practice and experience to dance as if you were one body; it takes understanding, dialog and time to create sexual unity.
The understanding part of the equation is that men and woman move to the beat of a different drummer and experience pleasure differently. A man becomes sexually aroused more quickly than a woman and is more focused on genital pleasure. A woman needs time and emotional contact in order to experience strong sexual feelings. Both partners need to learn about each other and understand each other's respective needs.
Through dialog a couple can learn what each other’s needs are and how to meet those needs. There’s no avoiding it. If you want to rehabilitate a dull sexual relationship, you need to tell and show your partner, "I need to be touched here and in this way. This is what turns me on." Also, don’t be afraid to ask your partner what he or she needs.
You want good sex? Be prepared to take the time to make it happen. There are no quick fixes to sexual fulfillment. It takes patience and practice.
You both need to talk.If you have no patience and do not want work toward better sex you need to politely separate.
2006-11-16 23:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had been in a relationship for 2 years then maybe i wouldn't dump him. But maybe you should talk to your boyfriend. Maybe its his first time..he may not be so good at it...if you know what i mean. And maybe if you don't really think its well "fun" to have sex with your boyfriend..maybe he isn't the guy you would want to spend your life with. its a tough one but I'm sure you will be able to get through this...and sooner or later you WILL know what to do.In the mean time talk to him.
2006-11-16 23:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by runner. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess some would say that sex isn't everything , but it is a very important part of a realationship , maybe you guys could try something new , have some fantasies come true ... play games , if that doesn't help then maybe you should move on . At least try .
2006-11-16 23:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by debbie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a specific request to try something different. What would make it more fun for you? If he is not open to suggestion and creativity, then you might just have to move on. You can't stay with someone indefinitely if you're not satisfied.
2006-11-16 23:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why dont you try to help him first, and try to make him better? Put a little work into him. Dont go looking for perfection or you will never find it. If he is pretty damn close, put a little time into him. Or even tell him. But dont just break his heart without a reason. If you do dump him, make sure he knows why too. It is only fair.
2006-11-16 23:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cody B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him for two years you should be able to talk to him~ gently. Be careful not to bruise his ego. But make pointed suggestions about what you would like from him. He may have no idea you feel this way and if you ask him for something different he may surprise you. Whatever you want or need let him know. Make it fun.
2006-11-16 23:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by d☻min☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Maybe if I've tried everything to get it to be more satisfying. Talk to him about it. Is it that it's just the same over and over? Try taking control more and see if it helps.
2006-11-16 23:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, did you cheated on him?
are you comparing the sex with him with others, or is it that you remember from before the sex.
well i say dump him, you don't want the rest of your life right?
so just find someone that makes you feel like a woman.
2006-11-16 23:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one to answer but i would have to say if the sex sucks and the relationship is just ok its better to call if off now before u regret it later.
2006-11-16 23:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Boondocksaint 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋