MIL=Hiddious woman, socially retarded, inability to behave in public. That being said, I have put up with this woman for 5 years, each encounter with her is worse than the last. My fiance is her only child left (2 others have passed). Until recently I have delt with the bull s**t parade that follows her everywhere she goes, last month a situation arose that prompted me to discontinue my association with his family. (yes, she wins in this scenario) We had a conversation in which I explained my feelings, and realize that I place him in an impossible siutation when I don't get along with his mother, and we agreed that I would remove myself from interaction with her. However, this arrangement will cause issues during the holidays. He shouldn't have to choose which woman he wants to spend the holidays with, and he is all she has. How do I get through the seasons festivities with out making him miserable, but keep from slapping this woman and feeling hateful ruining my holiday? HELP
2006-11-16 14:53:15 · 7 answers · asked by shannonscreativechaos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
treat her with the most courtesy that you would treat a lady of 95. she will spend so much time trying to figure you out that the holiday will be over before she catches on get on her case about every thing, if she goes to the washroom tell her if she needs help to give you a call, if she go to get out of a chair tell her to wait until you can assist her, smother her with kindness and it will drive her out
2006-11-16 15:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dreaded monster inlaw- these are just one day visits I hope- and it has been 5 years- when is the big day?? Maybe if you were married to him- it would make a difference- there needs to be a little compromise between you and fiance- like maybe- seeing her every other holiday - and stay only a day or 2- and and that is if she lives far away- if she is close- how about a few hours- and why not have your own holidays at home or a vacation elsewhere- this man needs to cling to his wife- and become one w her- not his mother- that cord is cut at marriage- - D
2006-11-16 15:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fail to be specific as to what she does that upsets you so much. It is quite possible she is socially retarded, but it is equally possible that you may be a bit anal retentive about such things. At any rate, you will have to learn to get along with her well enough to get through the holidays. Alternating years will work, but there is still the need for visits during the holidays, if possible, even if only for a short stay if she lives close to you and your fiance.
Good luck
2006-11-16 15:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I sure hope you have big ca hones because it sounds like you need to suck it up and go with the flow of your fiances decision. Granted it may not be the best holidays for you but his mom won't be around forever.
2006-11-16 15:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go away and have a holiday away from her and ask your parten to come with you for a few days then he can spen the rest of the hoilday with his mum and you can have some time away to relax and do some timg you enjoy
2006-11-16 15:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your fiance's mother she is not your mother-in-law.
That said let him spend the holidays with his family and you spend it with yours. When you are married you spend the time with your spouse.
2006-11-16 15:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness!!!
2006-11-16 15:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by blue_6670 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋