he likes me, we hooked up, he doesnt want to date?

Question

i was friends and friends only with a guy for a few years, and his friends tell me he likes me. we both made it clear to each other that we liked each other. a few weeks ago we hooked up. we did talk after that so its not like its awkward or anything. i decided i wanted to be in a relationship, and after talking to him, he said he didnt, but he still wants to be friends like we always were. he said he didnt want to start dating me was becuase hes still going through that "hooking- up" phase. i dont know if he still likes me, and i honestly dont know what to do. i really like him and i know he has or had feelings for me. how do i get to him to want to be in a relationship? or something monogamous. if i talk to him about this again, how do i even appraoch him? and am i allowed to flirt and practically throw myself at him when we hang out?

Answer 1

Sounds like you are a little confused. My suggestion is to back off a bit and gain some perspective. Playing a bit hard to get works much better that going all out and throwing yourself at someone. Women and Men think much different about the hookup thing . Women tend to become attached easily afterward where most young guys anyway are more after gaining some sort of points by the number of conquests. If you act a little stand offish he will be more interested in the long run, especially if was really good. Make him work for it next time.

Answer 2

IGNORE GAME PLAYING ADVICE........

lying or trying to coerce somebody will only work for a short while.

do you want a relationship with someone that you have to battle to keep interested?

i don't want to get involved with anyone because life is a long time, however, sometimes you will meet someone who you cant help getting involved with and then its all good.

in the mean time you can throw yourself at him but this could put him off as much as encourage him and its impossible to advise you on this.

as you want a monogamous relationship i would be inclined to remain Friends and not approach the subject until he does.

if you allow him to call you when he wants to hook up you could end up feeling unworthy and grateful, and you deserve better.

please do bear in mind that a guy who wants to pay the field is thinking physically and not emotionally and a true loving relationship is alot of both

good luck

Answer 3

y r u so crazy about such a shy n confused creature....sorry to say....
give him his time....he likes u but he is feeling shy....
continue ur f`ship the way it was....
n use another weapon
lie to him
tell him that a boy recently complimented u on ur beauty in a party n proposed u
see if he feels jealous....that`ll give him a push...
n he`ll feel that he`ll have to make a relationshi[p with u if he doesn`t wish to loose u