Sleep with me?

Question

I'm 25 girl and have been seeing a guy for 3 months who has said he wants to take it slow. We go to his house and kiss and fool around and are both ver very attracted to each other. Why does he not want to sleep with me?-

Answer 1

he could be very shy and needs to be pushed a little . i know you've fooled around but its hard to brake the shyness . so move to another level take it further a bit and if he still Say's no then you should respect his wishes . sometimes a man know's that if he get's what he want's then he dosent want it anymore and he might not want that to happen . so take it slow and easy . good luck

Answer 2

I met this guy through a friend and we hit it off really good. Our first date was a camping trip. We slept in the same tent and everything. I really liked him and even though I was in no hurry to hop in bed I let him know about a month into the relationship I was interested in a more committed relationship. He told me he felt the same so we actually said to each other I will date only you! Now Iam not a slut, but I had my share of relationships and this was 1989 so the AiDs scare was out there. I kept telling him we should get tested before we have sex together to just make sure. He agreed, but never went. I went. Test came back ok. By this time it was 6 months into our dating. I had tried a number of times to get him to sleep with me...and he did, we did not have sex, just held each other etc. Finally after spending 2 hours convincing him we should "do it" WE made love. The next day he confessed....He was still a Virgin at 29 yrs old I could not believe it!!!! So my guess is he is a VIRGIN. Take it slow.

Answer 3

Well-hes already said he wants to take it slow and may not be ready or even wanting a sexual relationship at this point in his life. He may also be a person of high morals and values-who believes that sex should be saved for true love and marriage.Are you two seeing each other exclusively or also seeing other people-dating? for not everyone wants the complications (or so they think)of a sexual relationshipBy your question I can assume that he stops the fooling around from going into relations-I suggest that you ask directly-always the best approach in getting a straight answer althoughit means you're putting yourself out there OR initiate a conversation on relationships esp premarital sex and by his reaction you should also get a answer but not as direct as when you just ask him. Your value,by the way is not determined by the sexual attention you get from men. He may want to sleep with you but may also hold you in high regard and does not want to treat you casually. The ifs are numerous for do not know him and its only from him that you'll know the real reason anyway.

Answer 4

Let me tell you a story:
I met this guy through a friend and we hit it off really good. Our first date was a camping trip. We slept in the same tent and everything. I really liked him and even though I was in no hurry to hop in bed I let him know about a month into the relationship I was interested in a more committed relationship. He told me he felt the same so we actually said to each other I will date only you! Now Iam not a slut, but I had my share of relationships and this was 1989 so the AiDs scare was out there. I kept telling him we should get tested before we have sex together to just make sure. He agreed, but never went. I went. Test came back ok. By this time it was 6 months into our dating. I had tried a number of times to get him to sleep with me...and he did, we did not have sex, just held each other etc. Finally after spending 2 hours convincing him we should "do it" WE made love. The next day he confessed....He was still a Virgin at 29 yrs old I could not believe it!!!! So my guess is he is a VIRGIN. Take it slow.

Answer 5

Well there are several things that would make him want to take it slow. One is he might have a disease. Second he might have a small p***** and is embarassed and is waiting tell he feels comfortable with you. Third he is unable to keep an erection and is embarassed. Fourth is he is a premature ejaculator. And last by not least he has a lot of respect for you and wants it to be special for the both of you. I hope it is the last of the five. Just talk to him about why he wants to take it slow or when fooling around go down on him and that will answer three of the five. First though make sure you find out if he is clean before you do anything with him.

Answer 6

Could be a religious or self discipline thing. Maybe he has been in too many crazy relationships that made him see the value of going slow. Sex is not a measure of commitment or attraction it is just the sticky part. Enjoy getting to know him and see where the pleasure of someones company can be very fulfilling. When you get married (not necessarily to him) you may look back on this time as very good training.

Answer 7

He might not want to sleep with you for many reasons. Not having anything to do with you, but maybe his last relationship? Not over his ex yet? Or maybe he found such a good woman he don't want to lose you. Sex is not always the answer even tho, we so much desire it,. sometimes more than men.. Our hormones are all over the place. Just the thrill of being aroused by a man would excited a woman. Maybe he dosen't know you are ready for the next step.. He' probably been hurt.. and is scared to go on the rollercoaster again.. Give it time.

Answer 8

Trust me, he WANTS to sleep with you!

He's just wants to take things slowly. Chill, girl...it's only been 3 months. In the long run, you'll be thankful that the two of you took it so slow. Before ya know it, you'll be married with a half a dozen teenage kids. You'll be so tired and ragged that neither of you will have energy for sex.

Cherish the moment. You have so much time ahead of you. Sounds like you have a great guy. Don't let him go. Take care if him, and he'll take care of you.

Answer 9

Well I think that it would be good to try to take it slow and not rush things especially since its only been 3 months. But your 25 and the question you should be asking your self is "do I love him? and does he love me?" If you figure out that answer than you could start thinking about sex, because to me I have to love the person am sleeping with not just sleep with them for the fun of it.
-just my opinion

Answer 10

Hun its called RESPECT you should b so lucky to have found a guy who even knows what that is in this day and time dont b so willing ta open your legs for a guy that you have only known for 3 months dont you no what STD'S are sounds like he doues if your gonna b that easy then maybe you should go find a guy who doent even know what RESPECT is dont rush it hun b a respectable young lady sounds like he is a great guy