why cant my ex let me go we have a child together. he left me 4 his now gf but has been cheating on her with me. i have decided to finally move on ( after a year) cause i am not getting anywhere with him but he just does not completly want me to he will tell me he loves me and that he wants to spend time with me and relax blah blah blah. why why cant he just let me move on?
2006-11-16 14:07:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as long as you let him come back for sex he will. thake him to court for child support and it will be over.
2006-11-16 14:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having doubts because you know he has a violent side that he needs to take care of. If he moves in with you, he will have a shorter reign on you and possibly hurt you at some point. You may not see that now, but he sounds controlling. Another aspect of the problem is that you have been together for 6 years and you are still unmarried. If marriage is what you want, why hasn't he proposed? Perhaps he needs to prove to you that he is serious about your relationship. It would benefit you two to move in together after a wedding in order ensure he is serious about committing. Moving in doesn't spell out commitment. You can talk to him about what you want and let him know you would feel more comfortable if you guys went to premarital counseling or perhaps he can attend some anger management classes. The relationship doesn't sound too stable and he doesn't either.
2016-05-21 21:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting him use you .1 he not making you do anything 2 you know that he has a new girlfriend 3 so make arrangement for child support and visitation 4 he don't care about you 5you know what he is doing 6 you must like it cause if not you would have been gone a long time ago before he started going back and forward between the two of you so good luck PS:go unless you like this circle
2006-11-16 14:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on... it's your choice and you surely have the power do that. just don't let him ride-on you any longer. Surely there are many more who can accept you and love to share a life with you. Make your own choice and move on...
The voice of our original self is often muffled, overwhelmed, even strangled, by the voices of other people’s expectations
Many of us unconsciously believe that we’re unworthy or defective. We adopted this belief very early in our lives when the people we looked up to disapproved of our demands, wishes and behaviours. We concluded that we had to learn to be good.
Unfortunately, ‘being good’ usually meant giving up our own differences or uniqueness. We learned that we might get the love we wanted if we acted and felt like others wanted us to.
You need to know that he can't hold on you if you do not allow him. The fact that you found yourself accepting his non-committal relationship is in yourself - search yourself why you allow his to happen? in a honest manner. You may realise that it's you who could not let go and therefore allowing him to take advantage of you.. Wake-up girl !! you have your lfe to live for and don't forget about the little one looking at what going on in your life....
2006-11-16 14:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by iamagoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not the problem, you are. Move on already. Make a parenting agreement for your child, and become more businesslike. Date some new people. When he says he loves you and wants to spend time with you, tell him you don't care because he's wrong for you.
blah blah blah indeed.
2006-11-16 14:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm why leave when he gets what he wants without any complications? How many other girls is he visiting besides the 2 of you? Do you really like being second on the list? Drop him and find somebody who'll be good to you and your kid, I mean it can't be that fulfilling or fun to be his booty call.
2006-11-16 14:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tony S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he's getting the milk for free. you need to move on and not sleep with you. the problem is that you have a kid with him. you are always going to be tied with him because of that. get a grip, and stay away from him.
2006-11-16 14:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Course he doesn't want you to move on.... he's got it good the way it is doesn't he? But it's not his choice, it's yours. If you really want to move on, it wouldn't matter what line of crap he gives you, you'd just do it. So the question is.... why won't YOU let you move on?
2006-11-16 14:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like move to another city 500 miles away
2006-11-16 14:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesnt want to have to choose. He wants both of you and you arent helping the situation because you arent forcing him to decide.
2006-11-16 14:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cas ur his mistress n he likes cheetin
move on he givs guyz a bad name dump n leeve his *** n mayb even tell his girl wats ben happinin she dosnt deserv 2 get cheeted on
2006-11-16 14:10:21 · answer #11 · answered by scott_groen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋