What's worse: A woman that controls her man, or the sissy that lets her do it?

Question

I think it's the woman cuz some boys are soft little pansies and don't know any other way I guess. Both are sad though.

Lol, thanks Shakira, but sometimes I leave my P.C. pen at home and use the verbage in my head. I enjoy answers of all emotions just as long as it has some emotion to it.

Hmmm, answers all over the spectrum. Well, I can tell whose husbands are dying to come home, and whose husbands are terrified of their house and spend a lot of time at Hooters (elprez I'm looking at you)

Well argued "Iwork2much"

Answer 1

they are both sad yes...none more so than the other.

Although...if i HAD to pick...I'd say the PERSON doing the controlling as they are knowingly doing emotional harm to another human being...taking advantage if you will.

A PERSON that controls another person thinks too highly of themselves and has major issues that need to be addressed and a false sense of self esteem.

And the PERSON being controlled is often lacking any self-esteem and the ability to make choices that benefit themselves...and needs help to understand their true selfworth.

Yep...pretty even there, but I definitely think the controlling person is worse..

(side note...your question is fair..but some of us find the words sissy and ''soft little pansies' used to describe people just a LITTLE offensive..... :)

Answer 2

Everybody has a different set of needs and a different relationship style that suits them. I know a man like this who has told me repeatedly that he needs a woman to come in and take charge of his life (and not necessarily in a mommy kind of way). You'll find out if a particular lady is the right type for you with time if you keep your eyes and ears open. Me, I'd run for the hills from a guy like you, only because I've always been afraid of steam-rollering over men because I am so strong, but unlike some strong independent women, I really don't like to do that! Good luck...every pot has its lid!

Answer 3

control is good in any relationship and if it's necessary that the woman wear the trousers for the good of the family then that's fine.

i think that there's a statistic somewhere that says women are taking over as breadwinners of the family. they should also have the primary say in what goes on if that's the case because often they have good ideas about progressive changes and they can only wish for the best for their children and families etc.

if the domination is abusive then that's another story and it's got little to do with gender. Abuse is abuse which is wrong.

I wouldn't mind being the 'sissy' you describe if my woman obviously deserved to wear the trousers. I would just go ahead and enhance the relationship in the best way that I could.

Answer 4

Usually if there is a woman that controls her man there is a man behind her doing the same thing to her. It has nothing to do with being a sissy! Most of the time the man is the one that is being controlling, telling what she can wear and what she can't! You probably have a friend you think this is happening too and you are taking it has she is being controlling! If this is the case you should listen to her side it's probably completely different than his! Keep an open mind! Don't be a dick!!!!

Work it girls!

Answer 5

The gut who's a sissy. Women can take advantage of that when they see a weak man. I guess some are meant to bully and others to submit to be honest.

Answer 6

Hmmm, I'm going to have to go with the sissy. I mean, SOMEONE'S gotta take charge, right? If he isn't man enough to step up, than the woman is definitely going to be all over that. Although I personally could never be with a b*tch-boy.

Answer 7

I think both. You have to have a good balance of both in a relationship. The woman needs to feel like she has some control but yet she want's her man to stand up for himself too! If she wanted a doormat, she would have bought one!

Answer 8

The man

Answer 9

I think its the man because if a womans in control of a man he must of been a weak person for letting her do that! the man must have a weak heart an love this woman alot .....

Answer 10

Which is worse a man who controls a woman or the sissy woman who allows it?

Relationships shouldn't be about control but I can see that for you it is all about domination. So which is worse a man dominating a woman or the spineless woman who allows it?