Ok, recently I've been in a bit of a financial bind due to living on my own and having taken some time off of work for a recent death of a family member. This past month money has been really tight and I've been hinting all month to my boyfriend - hoping that he would lend me some money. Whenever I did, he would just change the subject. Finally, this past week, after getting sick with the flu and having no money for any medicine - I finally asked him straight out to borrow forty dollars. The way he reacted - it was like I had asked to borrow one of his kidneys. He told me I should just ask my parents, and then he got off the phone angrily.
For the record, he never takes me out and the last time he spent any large amount on me was when he bought me groceries 7 months ago. My boyfriend also pays no rent, or bills and eats out every other day. Now he says he's sorry (after I borrowed it from my mom) but I am really tired of this and I feel I deserve better - what do you think?
2006-11-16 14:02:30 · 31 answers · asked by Calin A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend does not live with me - he lives at home with his parents and does not pay rent.
2006-11-16 14:17:02 · update #1
Girl drop him and drop him fast. Nothing is worst than being in a relationship with someone that can't help you. It should be 50/50 and he should be there for you when you need him. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 and a 1/2 years because he didnt want to change for the better and is stingy too and we as women dont need no bs'n men.
2006-11-16 14:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Snookems 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats is a definite YES! When someone cares about you they will give their right arm to help you, take care of you and just be there for you! And the sad part is he may not just being "selfish" he may actually really be like this. Can you imagine being married to someone as "tight" as he is now. Especially since he pays no rent and eats out so much. If anything he may not want to share money with you because he has been burned before, BUT he could of said, "Hey I'll go and get you some Meds...what do you need?" In that way he didn't have to give you money, but still cared enough to get you some medicine!
2006-11-16 14:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your boyfriend LIVE WITH you? I know it states in your question that you live ALONE, but I think you need to clarify this first. Also, ANY decent boyfriend would be MORE than happy to BUY medicine for his sick woman - without even asking for the money back. It's the right thing to do. Wouldn't YOU do that for your MAN if HE was sick? Does he have a job, or does he lean on others for money? If he's been out of work for an extended period of time, MY opinion is that you should give him ONE - FINAL warning...that is...if you LIVE TOGETHER. If you live alone, he's not obligated to help you pay your bills. You need to overcome the things in your life that have kept you from earning. We all have to do that sometimes. I know I've done MY fair share. Does HE live alone? Maybe he's struggling with his OWN financial issues. You need to get all the info before you act. HTH!
2006-11-16 14:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by BiffJohnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve better also...I mean, if the bad sides to him overcome the good sides, let him go. That does sound very selfish indeed, and irresponsible the way he pays for nothing and eats out all the time. Getting serious with a guy who is irresponsible financially could go over really bad with you if you get married or live with him. You'll be the one having to pay for everything and you'll be the one having to take care of him. Just keep an eye on this one. You deserve the best!
2006-11-16 14:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think borrowing money from friends or family is typically a recipe for trouble and hard feelings...however if you were sick and he knew it, he could've been considerate and brought you some medicine...
Don't be angry that he didn't offer you money, or that he was unhappy you asked to borrow it...
...however the never going out would be an issue for me...you shouldn't expect a huge amount of money to be spent on you, but he should take you out from time to time (and you should reciprocate in some way)...
Since you are apparently not content in this relationship, why is it still going on? Find someone who is on the same page as you...and allow your current guy to find someone who may be more in sync with him...
2006-11-16 14:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dating time is a time to explore a relationship and consider if this person is worth a commitment for life, right? Well, is this the kind of guy you want to be responsible to care for you "for better or worse"? He wouldn't even help you get medicine when you were ill! Honey, I don't even know you and I would have bought you the medicine and not even expected it paid back! That's what human beings do for one another.
It's up to you whether you dump him or not, but I would dump him if it was me.
God Bless,
Sue
2006-11-16 14:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him. First, he should be able to trust you enough to lend you money. And you were sick, since when does money become more important than caring for another person, specially your girlfriend whose going through a lot? A boyfriend, aside from giving you love and friendship, is a man who you can depend on when things are down.
2006-11-16 14:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know poor minimum wage earners that still manage to pay rent AND take a girl out. He needs to learn how life is, doing his own laundry, rent, eating mac&cheese because there is no money for pizza. You need someone who is on your team, who knows what its like and who can help you through a crisis, not make it worse.
2006-11-16 14:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's jacked up that he couldn't spare you the money at a time you really needed it. i would understand if he had financial issues of his own, but if you say he eats out every other day then its pretty obvious that he has no problem in the money department. you do deserve better then this. dump him.
2006-11-16 14:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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